My Fiancé Broke up with me after 14years, I have 2 kids with her
My Fiancé Broke up with me after 14years, I have 2 kids with her
Hello all..
Ive been reading through many experiences from other peoples personal problems and Im glad I've found a site like this to gain some advice and maybe confidence to help me get through my break up.
After 14 years (met when we were 16years old during high school), my fiancé (Since August 2008) broke it off with me for all the reasons I now know why.. We have two beautiful daughters, 11 and 3 years old both ours. Its waken me up and given me a kick up the backside.
I am from Sydney, Australia. We were supposed to get married in Ochos Rios Jamaica this April along with our trip to the USA which is still all go where my eldest daughter will be performing at Walt Disney World with her Dance school. We leave to the U.S on the 4th April, a few weeks to go where I will be again close to the woman I love. Given the situation, I will try my best to put things aside and focus enjoying time with my kids with their mother during the whole trip for 3 weeks.
Here are the reasons she broke it off after 14years:
>1st Priority family, which I have not done. All my focus has been on my car, I'm a car enthusiast and I love modifying cars. I haven't been around much for the kids.
>2nd Being that true father figure, to live under the same roof with each other, kids and mrs coming home to their father, we both live apart. I live at home and she lives with her mum. She stays at her mums because the kids go to school near by and her mum takes care of our kids whilst we are at work.
>3rd Her father passing away last year in April '08, her expectations were for me to step into place and fill his role, that he gave to her, his guidance and help
Whenever she was in doubt.
>4th Buying house - We could not buy property due to this USA trip, as the Australian dollar is falling, so it would nearly cost double.
>5th Wedding, she had to leave 1 week earlier than us, so we could not go ahead with a wedding in the USA or Jamaica.
She broke it off last Sunday 08th March, it is Friday 13th 2pm here and I have not spoken to her since. I really want to fix things up, change for the best and win her back.
Im not sure if she still wants that. I don't want to ask.
Prior to the break up, a week ago I noticed she was stressed and in angry moods. She asked me to give her some space, I was in doubt during this time so I called, text, emailed nearly everyday and also popped by to see the kids as they live with her. She was even more angry and did this, so I organised a bunch of Gerberas and chocolates to be sent to her work last Friday 6th March to apologise and show that Im thinking of her. Never heard a word of thanks, nothing at all until the Sunday I came around and asked her what's going on and what's happening between us.
She gave me the answer in full points as listed above why and I now realise, my fault it is over. She let me go. :(:(
Right now I'm so not motivated to do anything, eat, sleep and think.
Ive been really depressed, Ive got counselling sessions for myself to help me get out of this depressive mood every Saturday morning at 8am. 11 sessions to go, I'm on a mental health plan.
Im just devastated.
Don't know what to do? Should I call her? She will let me take the kids for the weekend but won't let me see her. Should I give her some space and this time really give her space?
I know I will need to work on my list of things to fix and change, I will be selling my car also to take focus of that and more on the family.
Im so tempted to see and speak to her in person, I miss her and don't want to lose her for good.
Thanks in advance.
-Chester
