I've been with the same guy for almost 9 yrs now I work full time and he is home all the time,but he tells me I'm lazy I do nothing around the house he locks me out of the computer one time he didn't let me use the phone he said he pays the bill and I have no right touse it. But see that is the only thing he pays beside car insurance he thinks I should pay it all. This has been going on for a while now this to me sounds like verbal abuse what do you think?