I have been in a relationship for more than 3 years now. People look at me and my boyfriend as a perfect couple. But lately, I am having huge doubts about our relationship. We both are full-time students and have part-time job. The only time we see each other is mostly at nights that too around mid-night. On the weekends, we both don’t work, but we still don’t see each other because he likes to spend time with his friend. So, mid-nights of weekdays is the only time we have for each other. If I talk to him about it, he says I am being too demanding. But I feel like I am not. I am still happy cause at least we have our nights together. But during the vacations too, he doesn’t have time for me. His face lightens up when he’s around his friends playing poker, but while he’s with me, all he thinks about is going back to his friends. Am I being unfair to him? Am I asking too much? Just two days ago, he told me we will spend a whole day together. Next thing you know, he comes to see me at 4pm, his friend calls him, he leaves promising me that he will be back soon. Then he calls me back at 6, says he is going out with his friends for dinner, doesn’t call until 10. Then I call him instead at 10, and then he says, he’s playing poker with his friends, he wants me to come to his place, he will play until 1am and then we can talk? I am just so confused, what the hell is going on in his head. Does he even care how I feel? Or is it me who’s being too pushy and demanding. I can’t share my problem with any of my roommates or friends, because he doesn’t like if I talk about us with anybody. So, I thought maybe this would be the right place to get all my answers.
Please help. Please be honest. If I am the real problem, then I want to change myself. If my boyfriend is getting over me, I want to move on.
