A non-communicating daughter in trouble
We have a 20 year old daughter who is attending college and is almost impossible to communicate with. We get the same old "I'm 20 years old". Well she had a friend have been traveling with a cousin of ours and his friends who are known to be bad news and are into pills and some drugs. We can't even have a face to face with her and is always complaining that we accuse her of doing drugs. We have never said that to her and she is always on the defensive. I am tired of being held hostage and when we push her she says she will quite college. It is a goal of mine to have her finish her education and my younger daughter (18), she is great an no problem just the 20 year old. We are doing everything possible to help her through school and she does work one day a week to help with her expenses. I am at my wits end with her, I don't know what to do at this point, I wanted to report those male friends who are a big part of the problem. If I call her bluff, take her car away she will drop out of college.
Do I try the tough love. She says she is stressed with caring so many credits and we are even paying her car loan for this caring to help her be less stressed.
Can someone please help tell me the best course of action, I am about out of prayers.