I got married in Pakistan in 99, it was an arranged marriage. When we got married, as a custom you get asked before signing the marriage certificate if a divorce is to occur in the future, what the bride is entitled to. My wife signed the papers stating that she had no interest in money or propery.

10 years on we have two children, one is 8 and the second child is 6. Three months back she left our home and took off with money, gold and my bank cards. She left the kids too, I found where she is through police.

She has taken me to court now, wanting money, half of the property (which is under my name, I have always paid the mortgage and bills), and she wants the kids. Im in so much stress, because I don't want to losse my kids, I don't know what I'll do. Also the house is a family house, as in our culture it also belongs to my other three brothers. What can I do? I'm scared she will clean me out?

Hire the best legal defense you can. That is all you can do.

Also, maybe you should hire one that is familiar with your culture but I am unsure if that might help you out.

Find the meanst badest of a lawyer she will do her best to take her down. Most woman lawyers love cases like these specially when there kids involved. Ask around, talk to people call the local court house and ask some of the clerks. You get the right one. Be honest about everything you tell her even if its bad you can't have secrets fro a person who is helping you. Pray about and god will give you the answer you have been longing for.


Take care,

I would take everything that you got and nail her to the wall... you said that she left even the kids and now she wants them I think that there is a motive she wants more money.. and if she signed something then the judge will look at that... hire someone that knows what they are doing she will get what comes to her like that old saying "WHAT COMES AROUND GOES AROUND" things will work out for the best they may not seem like it but keep being the best dad that you can be and she can't take anything from you if the house is in your families name (brothers) she can't do it unless it was all you and you say its not. Try not to worry I know its hard but try:)

Relax... try to talk to her... ask her why she wants a devorse (is she seeing another man or wants to marry someone else?)

What ever you do don't shout at her.. coz women hate this...

Salam,
Mr Sad you should not worry. You should contact with your wife for reconciliation. Your marriage is celebrated according to the Islamic Law of Pakistan. You should contact the Lawyer whom who has grip of both Laws, Pakistani and States Laws. The court will see the best future of your child in the matter of custody of your child according to the State Laws.


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