Still married but wanting to move kids out of state
Hi and thanks in advance for any advice!
Up until July 08 my husband, kids and myself lived in PA when we decided to move to LA because his family lives there and he had been laid off and a family member offered him a job. The job turned out to pay less and we couldn't afford our bills so we had to go on a variety of government assistance. Since then he has gotten a better job but our marital issues have gotten worse. We've always had problems and I see now that moving was a bad thing. He spends all of his free time with his parents and sister. I feel that he he is never around and never helps but anytime he can he critizes everything I do.
To make his family dependence matters worse, we live in a 2 bedroom apartment over his parent's garage and his sister lives next door. We're constantly having to be together, there is no family time with the four of us and he really doesn't understand why I want we should have our own time as a family. Not to mention, the apartment is small for our family and animals and I believe there are water damage issues that may be causing my son to have reoccuring chest problems.
I just want to take my kids and move home to PA to our house that is still sitting on the market. We're paying for it, why wouldn't we live there? I just need to get a way to make up my mind whether I want to live in LA, PA or get a divorce. I'm so unhappy but most important are my children. Losing them is NOT an option. I would rather be with him and keep going the way we are then not be with my kids.
Any advice would help!