My Boysfriend is Jealous, overprotective and clingy, and now its ruining us.
Well, where do I start!
Ok, Ive been with my partner for 1 year now, and we have lived together for about 8 months. Our first few months together were good, although he cheated on me right at the very beginning. I cheated on him for revenge which I know was wrong but we can't change that. I still felt I could at least try and be with him, as he was showing all the signs that he was truly sorry and remorseful.
Although over the last year, he has lied to me a number of times even about silly stuff, but I keep giving in. But now I feel I have come to my wits end.
Basically my problem is his anger and jealousy, which is magnified when he's drunk!
The past month or so, he's broken his hand after getting angry and punching a solid object, he kicked our bedroom door because I locked it after a night of him calling me a sl*t and wh*ore, because other guys were looking at me!
I feel like every time we drink he starts fights with me and I'm over it. I don't think I can handle it anymore. But what gets me is that I feel like he blames me because he says I can stop him getting angry if I just stopped doing what I do.. which is having fun basically. I can't talk to a guy without him getting jealous, I can't dance next to a guy! Heck I even get in trouble if other guys look at me!
He's out of control, and I've tried to talk to him about it, but I just feel like he blames me and that "I can stop him getting angry" I just feel that HE'S the one with the anger problem, so HE should control it! Im not a cousellour or a miracle worker, I do all I can but he just still blames me.
Plus I used to be very easy going and trusting, but his jealousy is rubbing off on me, I think I think that if he gets angry when I do innocent things like talk to a guy (no flirting at all!), then he must be guilty when he does!
I really love him, and when we're not fighting we're so good together, but... I really feel that the anger and jealousy is ruining us and I can't figure how to fix it! I feel like he needs profeccional help, but he says he'll 'try' be better, but to me that means nothing. He says he knows he needs help, yet he doesn't seek it, he feel slike I should be the one to help him, but That's hwta drives me nuts, its way out of my league, I'm border line cracking because I can't stand it when he says I have to fix him!! I can only do so much!