Should my wife be friends with this guy?
My wife is friends with a guy. They met about 10 years ago at the gym, he's from our area, and have friends in common. I never met him, though he knows of me. He is also married.
My issues are: I've never met him, and when he and my wife met at the gym to work out, my wife asked him if his wife knows that they were meeting, and he said that he couldn't tell her.
That was a few years ago. Last weekend, while out with her friends, my wife ran into him. Since then, he has called her three times, with no real reason. I think we could assume that his wife doesn't know that he's calling my wife.
Now, mind you, I do have female friends; all of which I work with. When I suggest to my wife that her friendship with this guy may be inappropriate, considering that he's friends with her behind his wife's back, she doesn't seem to care, and says that I have female friends (all of which have met my wife) so what's the difference.
Maybe it's just my insecurity (we've recently had relationship trust issues - more my fault than her's) but it's affecting my thoughts. Why is this guy friends with her? I do trust my wife, I don't think she's interested in this guy; but what does this guy want?