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  • Dec 7, 2008, 02:49 PM
    charlottevic21
    Heartbreak how do I get over it
    My partner and I had been together 2 years with a 11month old son when he finished it with me last week, I am totally heart broken especially as he is already txting and kissing another girl, I have asked him to hold back with her as it hurts too much but it doesn't seem to have much affect with him, I really don't see how I am going to get over him as I love him so much, people keep saying that time will help but I can't ever see myself with anyone else. He was my first love and I'm still very much in love with him,its been 2 weeks now and I still feel the same as I did back then I know we were having problems for a while but I never saw this coming.I always saw us growing old together etc as sad as it sounds! I just don't know how to try and move on from him.
  • Dec 7, 2008, 03:03 PM
    tillykilly
    Two weeks is such a short time to get over this heartbreak and the shock you have had. Try to realise that he was not committed as you and that you have your child to focus on.he is not worthy of your love and loyalty and this is better for you to find out he is easily distracted now than furthur down the line... do you really want to spend your time and love on a man like him.. moving on eventually will be the best thing and for you to find a guy who will love as truly as you do
  • Dec 7, 2008, 03:13 PM
    Scleros
    The first love is the hardest. You never completely get over it, least I didn't, but it DOES eventually get better, with time. Two weeks is not enough time. Please read the sticky posts at the Relationships Forum. No contact (NC) with the ex is the recommended method that will allow you to heal.

    *hug* Hang in there.
  • Dec 7, 2008, 10:52 PM
    babyshooter11

    First thing is first. You have to actually want to get over him. Yes, time is the ultimate cure but in the end you are the only thing that will hold you back from getting over him. You have to be very dedicated to getting over him. You have to be willing to take extreme measures even if that means never talking to him again. You can't obsess over him and expect everything to work out. You have to put yourself in the right state of mind and time will back you up from there on out. So ask yourself this, "why should i get over him?" and "what will i do to get over him?". And whatever your plan is to get over him STICK TO IT. No matter what. Keep reminding yourself why this didn't work out and why it probably shouldn't start back up again. And most importantly believe in yourself and I guarantee that there was something to learn from all of this so figure it out and remember it because if you don't learn from it you'll be back here again. Good luck!
  • Dec 8, 2008, 03:15 AM
    Irishgirl
    My heart breaks for you, don't sit around and dream about the good times because I guarantee there will have been more bad than good. The best way to get over someone is to show them you can live without them and to succeed in whatever you set your mind to. Two weeks isn't enough, treat this like a bereavement because basically that's what it is, a death and that takes time to get over. At least your walking away from tis relationship with something good to show for it - your child x
  • Dec 8, 2008, 01:22 PM
    chrissymarie

    I think its too soon to think your going to be over him. It's only been 2 weeks for you. Maybe in his shoes its been over longer than 2 weeks. Maybe during your relationship with him he was done with it awhile before he told you. That could be why he seems to already be moving on. Put yourself his his shoes... "if you loved your partner but was no longer in love with your partner... 'in love meaning- passionate and romantic love'... what would be the best thing you'd want your partner to do once you 2 broke up? Personally I'd want my ex-partner to act calm and content with my decision, try to become my friend, and then maybe work his way back into my life by showing me all the good in him.

    But I don't know how'd you'd feel if you were in his shoes and what you would do. That's what you need to ask yourself.

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