I'm in a 5 yr relationship with 3 daughters under the age of three I'm not allowed to have any friends and he makes sure that I don't keep associates so I won't have a way out... he is messing with this female off and on for about three years... and he uses the children to keep me here I have no body here in vegas and or anywhere I lost my mother last year and that is all I had left I have no where to go and don't want to leave without my children but he won't let me leave with any of them or it's a real big fight... he likes the fast life and I don't and that's the problem... this is why there is so much anomosity between us... I do love him and would love for us to be a family but where do I go if this is just all about hem and what he wants in he's life... and forget all about me and what I need to do... I have no trans... and he womt help me to go to the state for help cause he don't want to pay the money back... he stops me from doing everything positive but what can I do to get away safely and that I won't hurt my girls... :(:confused::mad: if you know what I'm going through then maybe you can tell me what would be a safe way for me to go...

I would highly suggest looking for Women's Shelters in your area and inquire about assistance they offer to women trying to get out of situations like yours. I'm not sure if he's ever been abusive to you or your children but your post sounds like you are scared of being where you are... and that isn't love and its not an environment you should have your children in one more day.

I wish there was more advice to offer but you need help of a larger organization (just Google woman's shelters in your area). He doesn't appear to love you. He wants you where you are to take care of his kids because the allows him to live his fast life. You're going to need all the courage and strength you have to escape this... its always easier to stay in the darkness than journey into the light.

Hang in there... maybe someone else will have even more advice here for you.

Love is suppose to be beautiful. This story does not sound like love. It sounds like you are scared and he is controlling your life. You need to get out of this relationship asap because it does not sound healthy. There are many ways of getting help check around...
You do not want your daughters seeing this relationship and thinking that it is okay for a man to control his women. Get help for your and your daughters and be strong cause you can make it!!

You need to be able to just walk away for the sake, future and health of you and your girls. And yes, it's going to be tough, you will have days where you don't know where to go or what to do but if you keep pushing forward more of the positive will come into your life as you take out the negative that he's brought into your life.

There is help out there to help women get back on their feet. There are churches to help out, friends and organizations. Hopefully, you've been smart and been putting money on the side and doing some research. I think the biggest step is just taking the first one.

You are the protector of your girls, he is obviously a control freak. I don't know the man, so you also have to take his personality and history into consideration i.e. his temper, etc. You should be stealth in your plan to go away and start a new life.

The other have given you some really good suggestions, and I will only add that there may be a church organization in your area, that can help. Good luck to you, and the girls.