Ask Me Help Desk - Do I have low self-esteem?

I have been told, many of times, that I have self-esteem issues. Tell me what you think. I am just curious.

-I do think I am ugly.
-I always have my hands up... blocking my mouth..
-I push my hair in my face.
-I wear make-up.

My entire family thinks I have low self-esteem. My mother says... I have myself.
The guy I like thinks so, too.(he likes me... too!. We are best friends! Literally, we know everything about each other. We are not going out, though. We both agree.. that we need to focus on school.. I am only in 8th grade, so it is all great. )(We are people who.. actually... try in school... )

My friends say I have self-esteem issues.
One of my friend and father have called me ugly.:(

Hi, Sronyv!

It sounds like you do have some really good attitudes about waiting to date and knowing that concentrating on school right now is much more important.

Why do you think that your friend and also your dad called you ugly, please? Maybe they were mad at you or maybe even saying it as a joke?

Thanks!

If your friends call you ugly, then they don't sound too much like friends. Life is al about how you see yourself. So first I think you need to do some inner searching to realize who you really are; and with inner peace comes inner beauty. And that is all that matters.

Hi again, Sronyv!

I can see that you're not logged onto the site anymore. I do have a few more questions for you, if you wouldn't mind answering them, please.

What kind of activities do you like to do or have an interest in? For instance, do you like to sing or maybe play an instrument or like to write things like poetry and/or the lyrics to songs? Do you draw, paint or do something else in the visual arts or maybe like to dance?

Depending on how you answer, we might be able to do some fun activities right on this site that can help you to feel better about yourself. It can really happen here!

Thanks!

Low self-esteem can sometimes mean different things to different people. You seem like a pretty content individual and that's important. It sounds like the people around you influence your opionion of yourself too much. I am not one who cares much about what other people say. I have been called fat and ugly and on the flipside anorexicly thin and hot. People don't know what they are talking about. It sounds like to me you're just like every normal kid just trying to get by.

Honey, don't ever let anyone tell you that you are ugly! You're NOT ugly, unless you are ugly inside and are mean or hate-filled. Are you either of those? I would bet you aren't. If your father called you ugly, HE has got problems of his own, and you need not listen to him in that regard. If a friend calls you ugly, she or he is NOT a friend, and only trying to bring you down.

Everyone has beautiful qualities about themselves. Do NOT listen to the ones that try and bring you down. That only means that they have their own self esteem issues, and feel the need to put you down, in order to feel superior to you. It doesn't work though.

You are still very young, and a lot of young girls have self esteem issues. You're not alone in that. You sound like you may be a little shy, and maybe that's why you try to hide your face? Don't try and hide because of what others say. Be yourself. Let your personality shine right through, and don't take crap from the ones that want to bring you down hon.

Do you know that people like Tyra Banks, or Duane "The Rock" Johnson, thought they were hideous looking when they were young? I'm not saying you should shoot to be a super model, or a famous westler or movie star, but they thought they were ugly at your age too. If you drown out all of the background noise, and focus on you, there is no limit to what you can be! :D

I love to draw manga. I like to sing... as well. The guy I like, takes piano lessons.. lucky him. Yes, it is very great.(that I am focus on school, more than on a guy... Yet, I see him as a really, friendly, smart.. best friend)(He is really smart... he is 13 and taking Geometry!I am only in Algebra 1;still advance, though) I sometimes write lyrics. My English teacher recently told me that I am a 'skilled' writer. Yet, I don't think I am. Well, the friend.. she/he is known for being extremely sarcastic, so... she may have been 'kidding' around. She has told me a few times. I think so, yet I am unsure... My father, well... he always calls me ugly. I have always thought that he thought I was ugly. He gets mad when I walk with my head down. So, he makes me feel worse... by putting me down.

Sailor99xp- Well, she/he may have been 'kidding' around. I do know who I am. I happen to like who I am. I like how I am myself, not everyone else. I have my own style.. not skinny jeans... etc. Ick. I like myself... personality wise.

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Originally Posted by Sronyv

I love to draw manga. I like to sing...as well. The guy I like, takes piano lessons..lucky him. Yes, it is very great.(that I am focus on school, more than on a guy...Yet, I see him as a really, friendly, smart..best friend)(He is really smart...he is 13 and taking Geometry!I am only in Algebra 1;still advance, though) I sometimes write lyrics. My English teacher recently told me that I am a 'skilled' writer. Yet, I don't think I am. Well, the friend..she/he is known for being extremely sarcastic, so...she may have been 'kidding' around. She has told me a few times. I think so, yet I am unsure...My father, well...he always calls me ugly. I have always thought that he thought I was ugly. He gets mad when I walk with my head down. So, he makes me feel worse...by putting me down.

Thanks!

I've been criticized for walking with my head down. It just makes me think and then I try to walk more upright. Really, if it's a way that you might need to improve "The best mirror is a friend's eye". Just something to think about there...

If you'd like to write a song, I could put it to music that the guy that you like might be able to play. I don't know how well he plays, though.

We have quite a few people on this site who are really into the arts of various kinds. We have our own "corner" on this site in a least a few topic areas. There is a tremendous amount of support for each other in those places. Below, are links to a few of the forum areas where the most has happened.

Art - Ask Me Help Desk

Writing - Ask Me Help Desk

Crafts - Ask Me Help Desk

You might find the following thread to be particularly interesting. It's where I've been helpful a girl to feel better about herself by helping her to compose a song. One of her teachers at school is helping her to play it.

I do hope that you'll take a look at the whole thread.

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/writin...ng-267729.html

If you'd like to do something like that, please let me know. I'd be glad to help you! :)

Thanks!