Hi, I have been through a divorce and just started dating someone.. I am a 65yr old woman, and dating a 64yr old man.. when we go to make love, he is hard, and when we get ready to have intercourse, he goes soft.. he drinks vodka, a lot.. he just nips, as he says.. could this be causing the problem? He thinks it is, but doesn't want to give up the vodka, he says he is trying to stop, but he gets the shakes, and has to take a nip.. I am concerned about him, he also smokes.. can you help me?

He sounds like an alcoholic. Alcohol can interfere with sexial function. More likely, his age is the prime factor. He should see a doctor for tests and perhaps a presciption.

I'm not old, but I am an alcoholic. My answer is based on my personal experience.

Have you ever heard of the term "whiskey ?" It's for real. Your man could be pounding the vodka and appear to you as just a bit tipsy. But in fact he might be thoroughly buzzed and incapable of sex.

He needs your support and possibly a doctor's help. Perscriptions and herbal remedy (like Argizyme) should be a last resort.

Yes, if his "nip" withdraw is making him shake it is a lot more than a nip.

He needs serous help to get though this. Now this could be the problem but it may be something else to at his age,

Other medication he may take, but stoping the drinking would be the first step.

Girl, don't take on a hopeless project at this time in your life.

Find a way to help out children, put your time to good use and you will get real love in return. :)

You might run across a nice younger man in his 40's to have a healthy relationship with.

Best wishes going forward, :)