Worried about our relationship
I am currently in a 8 month relationship with a 22 yr old girl (I'm 29). I met my girlfriend and as corny as it may sound it was love at first sight. I immediately fell in love with this girl.
We never really dated a lot. Maybe we went on 4 dates before we became official. We always hung out at her or my house and had lots of fun. I admit we both rushed into a relationship too fast. I moved in with her and spent all my energy on making her happy.
Within the first month, she was planning our wedding and naming the babies we were going to have. This kind of concerned me but I'm at the stage in my life where I want kids and a wife. Once I moved in with her, I started to she her true self. I just can't picture her as a mother or wife. All she wants to do is go out shopping, to the beach, or go to bars/clubs. She isn't responsible in any way. I have tried to leave 2 times now and I keep staying because she makes me feel guilty because she says I'd be abandoning her.
Recently, she became unemployed and instead of looking for a job she has stayed out and partied all the time. She hasn't done any work around the house or anything. I do it when I get off work. She hasn't been home in 5 days. She calls and tells me she's not coming home. When I ask why; she gets defensive and tells me to stop being nosy or that I'm making a big deal of the situation. She has even stopped paying her bills. She has told me that I am boring and she doesn't have fun with me at all. I asked her why she still wanted to be with me, her response was she loved me.
Now I have purchased my own home in this time to get out of a huge rent payment. It was originally planned to be me and her moving in there to start our lives over together away from city life. When I talk to her now she always tells me I don't care about her or she'll ask if I still want her to move in with me. I think she is trying to get me to break up with her.
We had a talk a few weeks ago and I mentioned maybe we need some time apart from each other. She took this horrible and said that meant I wanted to break up. I told her that I didn't (and I don't). Is this her way of getting me back for saying that or is our relationship ready to burn out? I am really worried about her personally and financially.