I'm 19 years old and my boyfriend is 22 and I have 2 kids with him... Hes always going to strip clubs and getting lap dances and coming on the computer and looking at porn and every girl he sees he has to check her out he says that it's a guy thing and hell probably never see her again... but still he comes home with strippers number and he said he was just doing it to get me mad but I know he had intentions on calling her I don't know what to do anymore I need some help for as what to do... is it really a guy thing to do all that stuff? Oh and he says its also a guy thing to go out every weekend... do guys know what girls go through?

It is not a guy thing or a man thing. It is an abuser thing. You need a good man for you and your children. Leave.

Some might think it's a guy thing! But I don't think so,especially when you've got a family at home,you need to have it out with him and if he doesn't stop then get rid!

Having kids with a boy is not the same as being in an adult relationship with a man. Guys are what they DO, not what they say.

His responses you to border on mean, but they are mostly irrelevant. Forget the kids, for a moment, you always go by what a guy DOES. Does this boy act like a man, a father, a future husband in training... any of that?

I doubt it. You had kids with a boy, he's still a boy. He's decided NOT to skip the fun most 20 years olds get to go through. A MAN would notice he has kids and should have a wife by now... he hasn't. He's still leading his own life.

MEN lead the family life, you need a man. You'll never get one while the boy is in the way. I'm sorry this is the father of your children, but it is. He's a permanent problem in that respect.

Meanwhile, you can start the process for having it all... but it starts with a clean slate. He can be the kids dad, but he can't be your husband, you need a man. Walk away.

I don't think he is being fair or reasonable.
Tell him it has to stop. You have to think about your children not just yourself!

Good luck!

No it's NOT a guy thing. I mean, maybe if he went to Vegas once a year for a friend's bachelor party or something but NOT on a normal basis. He isn't a trustworthy good man. If he is with you and loves you and wants to be a father, he wouldn't be going out at all like that. You should move on. There are better men out there, keep him as the father of your children only. How do you know he doesn't have children with other 19 yr old women? Good luck to you.