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  • Aug 23, 2008, 09:18 AM
    infamousXero
    When good intentions go wrong?
    So I messed up:

    I've been dating someone that I've known socially for 5 years. We've been seeing each other for 2 months and recently she started acting weird last week. She gave me warning that the week before her cycle is tough and the week before a hospital procedure is tough so essentially a double whammy.

    I took a day off work to pick her up from after her procedure. I unfortunately ran late and she left without me, and is hurt and upset that I could not be there for her. I really do feel bad since I have no excuse, just poor time management, and now she's talking about concerns she has about me yesterday.

    So last night I told her to take her time and have some space away from me, things moved fast and I hurt her, and I can't make up for it. I told her to call me when she was ready to talk preferably in person. Later one she called me at 2 and then 5 in the morning to make sure that I wasn't upset. She wants to see me tomorrow and was worried about things. We spoke for a while, and ended on good terms, she said that we were probably both over thinking things and over analyzing them and should just enjoy each others company since we get along so well.

    So my question is how should I approach her? How do I let her know that I want to the chance to show that my lateness was one time only and that I will be there for her in the future if she needs me?
  • Aug 23, 2008, 10:09 AM
    happy_jester
    I believe that you had good intentions towards this girl [just that it didn't quite turn
    Out right! ]

    What matters now is the future you both have together :)

    Quote:

    And should just enjoy each others company since we get along so well.
    The fact that she wants to see you tomorrow,and,that you spoke for a while with her and ended on good terms,is a very positive thing & something you should remember :)

    As you say,you should just enjoy each others company,and through time, you'll be able
    To show her that you will be there for her in the future if she needs you. :)
  • Aug 23, 2008, 05:09 PM
    Rjacks
    Being late sends the message: 'You don't matter'. She just needs to know that she's important to you. Apologize and show her you're sincere, then move on to bigger and better things! Everybody makes mistakes sometimes.
  • Aug 23, 2008, 05:20 PM
    N0help4u
    You did take off work and lose a days pay so I am sure since she is talking in a positive light she must see it that way and have gotten over her initial hurt. Just be yourself and be understanding and reassure her that you do not want this to be a bad turn in your relationship and you do want to make up for it in the future
  • Aug 23, 2008, 09:59 PM
    talaniman
    Put it behind you and don't make that mistake again. Seems you worked it out.

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