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  • Aug 16, 2008, 02:50 AM
    yasminanwar
    What should I do with the guy he don't have the same feelings
    I knew this guy 12 month ago and I fall in love with him.. 1st I saw him I was attracted to him then we became close friends he started to care as if I am his girl friend which was weird he was treating me and he feels jealous all the time whenever I speak to guys and whenever I ignore him it was upsetting him so actually I didn't understand till he got a girlfriend and this girl was my friend and after this relation both of us disapeard and I stopped calling him or caring for almost 5 month then they broke up as this girl got engaged to another one.. and the guy fall apart as he was in love with her... then I called him once he was so happy and he told me you are a close friend to me and I don't want to lose you one more time... then we started to talk again and we started to go out but I didn't put any excpectations on this relation to turn into a relationship.. but he was doing things that was confusing.. sometimes he treats me as if I'm his girl friend again and that was giving me hope.. then I decided that I'm going to tell him about all my feelings because I've been hiding these feelings for 11 month.. when I told him about what I feel he really appreciated this but he told me I don't want to lose you one more time because every time I go into a relationship I lose those people I love but by being close friends its going to last forever and I don't want to lose you one more time.. I felt that he is afraid to go through a relationship again as he don't want to get hurt and he don't want to hurt anyone... so I told him that I'm just saying what I feel and I'm not waitting for anything inreturn.. and I decided to keep him as a friend and if we meant to be its going to be... and I told him to forget about all I said and ill do the same but from that moment he didn't call me and I called him once he didn't pick up... so did I lose him forever... what can I do ? Advice
  • Aug 16, 2008, 03:17 AM
    LoveisBlind
    Call again, you have only called once - maybe he is just thinking things through. Don't assume he has given up on the friendship just yet.

    I think you are right to leave this as a friendship, at least for now. He is clearly still recovering from his last break up, and may not even be over his ex girlfriend yet, which is probably why he doesn't want a relationship. He will get past this and then maybe you will go out.

    It is a tough time for him at the moment, and he is probably confused. Support him as much as he needs as a close friend. Put your feelings to one side and let him know you are there for him.
  • Aug 16, 2008, 04:56 AM
    whtpearl
    I think whatever you did correct , now just give him some time to think about u , make up his mind , I mean it would surprise the other person when his/her best friend express his /her love... call him again as 'LOVEIS BLIND' advised u , and be her best friend at this time , empathised with him don't sympathise , hope everything get better soon , :)
  • Aug 17, 2008, 01:36 PM
    yasminanwar
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by whtpearl
    i think whatever u did correct , now just give him some time to think about u , make up his mind , i mean it would surprise the other person when his/her best friend express his /her love ... call him again as 'LOVEIS BLIND' advised u , and be her best friend at this time , empathised with him dont sympathise , hope everything get better soon , :)


    I tried 2do that and I told him that we can be just friends and I dun want to lose you and I told him that I just wanted to tell you about what I feel to comfort me its not because I'm waitting 4anything.. but now I've been calling him fro 5 days and his not answering and I dun know what to do if 2call him again or what.. so tell me what to do
  • Aug 17, 2008, 01:38 PM
    yasminanwar
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by yasminanwar
    i knew this guy 12 month ago and i fall in love with him..1st i saw him i was attracted to him then we became close friends he started to care as if i am his girl friend which was wierd he was treating me and he feels jealous all the time whenever i speak to guys and whenever i ignore him it was upsetting him so actually i didnt understand till he got a girlfriend and this girl was my friend and after this relation both of us disapeard and i stoped calling him or caring for almost 5 month then they broke up as this girl got engaged to another one..and the guy fall apart as he was in love with her ...then i called him once he was so happy and he told me u r a close friend to me and i dont wanna lose you one more time...then we started to talk again and we started to go out but i didnt put any excpectations on this relation to turn into a relationship..but he was doing things that was confusing..sometimes he treats me as if im his girl friend again and that was giving me hope..then i decided that im gonna tell him about all my feelings coz iv been hiding these feelings for 11 month ..when i told him about what i feel he really appreciated this but he told me i dont wanna lose you one more time coz everytime i go into a relationship i lose those people i love but by being close friends its gonna last forever and i dont wanna lose you one more time ..i felt that he is afraid to go through a relationship again as he dont wanna get hurt and he dont want to hurt anyone...so i told him that im just saying what i feel and im not waitting for anything inreturn..and i decided to keep him as a friend and if we meant to be its gonna be...and i told him to forget about all i said and ill do the same but from that moment he didnt call me and i called him once he didnt pick up...so did i lose him forever...what can i do ? advice


    I tried 2do that and I told him that we can be just friends and I dun want to lose you and I told him that I just wanted to tell you about what I feel to comfort me its not because I'm waitting 4anything.. but now I've been calling him fro 5 days and his not answering and I dun know what to do if 2call him again or what.. so tell me what to do
  • Aug 17, 2008, 02:53 PM
    talaniman
    Give him time to get his own head straight, by leaving him alone. He isn't even ready for anything, but healing, so let him.

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