Girlfriend is having doubts.
Hi,
My girlfriend/fiance is having doubts about our relationship. We have broken up and gotten back together twice over a 1 1/2 year period, but be recently got back together and sort of got engaged. Not an "official" engagement, no ring or wedding date or anything, but we have committed to each other in preparation for marriage years from now.
For the past week she has been really distant and abrupt with me. Whenever I talked to her, we only talked for a couple minutes at most because she said she had things to do. I asked her if everything was all right and she said yes. Well, fast forward to yesterday and she let me know that she is having doubts about us. She says that there are days when she wants to be with me and days she doesn't. She even went as far to say that there are some days she loves me and some days she doesn't. Whenever I try to talk about it with her, she dismisses it and says "I don't know" to almost everything I ask. She says she has tried really hard to be happy, but that she just doesn't know if she wants to be with me or not.
If I ask "Do you still want to be with me?" she says "I don't know." If I ask if things between us will be all right soon, she says "I don't know." etc, etc.
When we have broken up before, she exhibits the same type of uncertain behavior. And even when were were broken up, we would talk about us and she would still say "I don't know" to everything, but we would eventually get back together.
Finally, when I have talked to her on the phone and I say "I love you," she responds with a simple "uh huh." no I love you back, nothing.
Look, I know I have my own faults and I acknowledge that I may be doing something to make her feel this way. I am by no means perfect. But I honestly don't think I'm to blame for this. I tell her often how much I love and appreciate her. I even leave little notes for her to find as surprises. Maybe I'm doing something wrong that I don't know about, its certainly possible, but I just can't think of anything.
I love this girl and I DO want to marry her in a few years. But she isn't making it easy with her flip-flop attitude. Any advice or suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.