Am I out of line feeling this way and reacting this way?
My wife and I often do not do Christmas together (my family is far away, and nuts; her's is close by and nuts).
So we allow each other to do what each prefers on this big family get together.
Gifts in both directions between brothers and sisters in laws tend to be either cash cards or gift certificates to specific stores (quick and easy).
Then it changed: Xmas of 2006, I received no gift from any one of my wife's sybs, just a couple of cards (no problem, I get it: don't show up to see us, then no gift. No problem).
But this past Christmas, something else happened -- My wife's sister and her husband, bought my wife a trip -- an outdoor excursion (the very sort of thing I go in for) on a wild river, and a weekend with them on the Oregon coast at one of the nice hotels there.
For me? Not even a card.
I just learned of this today and was rather outraged that my wife had no problem with the gift and me not being included. I voiced my problem with it -- saying that it was hurtful and unthinking for her sister to present such a gift without including me, her hubby. I also said that I found it strange that my wife couldn't see her way clear to at least appreciate my position.
So that's my question. Do you think I am out of line feeling like this and then reacting by stating my dissatisfaction with their respective unthoughtfulness?
Really that's all I did -- state why I felt hurt at her sis, first, for not even thinking it might hurt me to be left out of a get away with my wife, and second, at my wife for not even suggesting to her sis that it might be innapropriate for her to vaction like that without her pard.
Please, give me your thoughts as much as you can from what I've explicated. Oh, I forgot to tell you -- my wife freaked out -- went balistic -- when I expressed my feelings.
Of course she gets to go, I would not think of trying to prevent her from having fun with one of her sybs, but man, don't I have a beef with what went down?