Ok I have a big problem,

I am 14 and I love this girl. She loves me, however she also loves her boyfriend that lives in mexico... (we live in canada) we have made out, I've fingered her and we almost had sex etc but she still won't dump him... any advice?

Yes, you are 14, stop trying to have sex. Realise you have hormones kicking in and you like this girl a lot, and believe it is love. An at 14 she should be free to date several people, and a long distance one is not real if she if dating you in real life.

Uhm... first, if she isn't going to leave the boyfriend, you are just the guy giving her attention. So demand more for yourself. Stop playing around and demanding love in return.

Second, the younger the person, the more intense "love" feels... everything is new. Its magnified. Larger than you.

Guess what? Not every new "love" is going to be the end all be all of your life, even though it feels like it.

So... as long as she's attached, you aren't hers and she isn't yours. Period.

If you can live with that and still be her boy toy who gives her attention without getting anything back, then fine.

As for sex, id advise against it unless you want to be a father at 15. Protection isn't 100% and I'm guessing you are more interested in getting of than changing diapers.

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Originally Posted by kp2171

uhm... first, if she isnt going to leave the bf, you are just the guy giving her attention. so demand more for yourself. stop playing around and demanding love in return.

second, the younger the person, the more intense "love" feels... everything is new. its magnified. larger than you.

guess what? not every new "love" is going to be the end all be all of your life, even though it feels like it.

so... as long as shes attached, you arent hers and she isnt yours. period.

if you can live with that and still be her boy toy who gives her attention without getting anything back, then fine.

as for sex, id advise against it unless you want to be a father at 15. protection isnt 100% and im guessing you are more interested in getting of than changing diapers.

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OK thanks