Ok, I'm at a point where I really don't know what to do. I've been with my girlfriend for 4 1/2 years now, and we have a daughter that's almost 10 months. I recently asked how to get the spark back in our relationship, I've tried many of the ideas and it don't seem like anything is working. I get home everyday and clean the house, she never has to do any of it. I've tried to take her out with just the two of us for a night here and there, and nothing seems to work, all we do is argue about the stupidest things.
Last week we had a big argument, because I found out she has been talking with an x online, I asked what they talked about, and she blew up saying that I don't trust her. After doing a lot of arguing, and a lot of crying, we finally worked it out.
I work 2 jobs, one full time and one part time. Just yesterday I was offered a new (good) job making the same as I do at my current full time job, but with full benefits (right now I pay over $200 a month for insurance). I've been at my current full time job for almost 8 years now. She told me that if I leave my current full time job, then she will leave me. What kind of crap is that? I would love to open my own business, but every time I mention anything, she just shoots the idea down saying that we can't afford it. I'm so tired of my current job, every day drags by, I'm ready for something else... ANYTHING else. I've tried to tell her many times that I hate my job, but all she says "well what happens if the new job don't work out"... which is true it would suck, but you can't go through life without ever taking a chance! How can I get her to see that? I know we argue a lot, but I love her and I really don't want to leave her. But I feel like if I don't, I'm going to be stuck where I am for the rest of my life... what do I do?