Falling in Love With Your Best Guy Friend
Ok, Hi. I am currently a sophomore at a university. And it has always been my assumption that guys and girls who are attracted to one another could not really be friends without at least one falling for the other. This past year I have become best friends with a guy that I never thought I would have any romantic interest in. Lately things have been very different though. I have definitely developed feelings for him- he is a great guy. We have very similar interests and the same sense of humor. We are constantly talking and in group settings we are considered obnoxiously flirtacious by our mutual friends (in as platonic a way as possible of course). I try to ask my girl friends about what they think about the situation but it is impossible to receive an answer without any bias (they have watched "When Harry Met Sally" too many times). We are together doing "date" things (movies, dinner, just talking for hours) but these have always just been friendly or flirty in a very much joking manner. Is it possible for him to feel the same and for nothing to have happened in our 2 years of friendship and 1 year of best friendship? My point always is that if he were interested I would know something by now, right? Unfortunately he is spending next semester abroad and I am staying on campus. This means that we will not be seeing one another for about 7 months. We both know how much we mean to one another and will stay in touch but he does not know that I feel "that" way about him. I do not know how to go from here because I feel like the longer we are friends the harder this will be (not that we could really get much closer as just friends) but then also I know how awkward things would be for us if it didn't work out- and that is not really a risk I am willing to take. Is there anyway of knowing how he feels without having "the talk"? Also is it at all possible that I am just confusing my feelings of such close intimacy through friendship for romantic love?
Any Input would be SO appreciated. Thanks!