We loved each other but I had a boyfriend. At least he said he loved me. We were very good friends for about 6 yrs. Talking on icq, messenger and rarely some calls. It was the best friend for me. We live in different countries about 1000 km far from each other. He behaved weird all the time, like worried about new people and didn't like to go outside his house. A month ago he wanted to see me and I agreed to come and see if we become something more than friends. I needed to make the visit till May and he knew why (that's not important in this story). After a week I wrote him sms that I should book tickets soon and got no answer. I thought he was even ignoring me on msn, never started a communication so I wanted to know what happened. He wrote me few sms, first denied he ignored me and didn't reply my sms. Than I cried a lot cause he told me he changed his mind and did not want to meet anyone. I feel very hurt now and it's so big hurt I never expected from such person. It seems like he ignores me on msn so I think we finished with the friendship. Or not? I hurt every day, cry about it and feel so betrayed :( What should I do. Is the relationship over forever? And why?

I'm sorry I'm having trouble understanding some of that, but I don't think this was ever a relationship to begin with. You never met after 6 years? That's not a relationship, that's a fantasy where you hope that your prince charming is waiting for you around the corner. As far as what to do, quit talking or contacting him.

Had to spread the rep chuff,

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What should I do.

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Forget him and start meeting new people face to face.

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Is the relationship over forever?

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What relationship? The fantasy you both built up online was not real.

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And why?

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You have not had an honest look at this other person, and have filled yourself with high expectations of this person. It was not real, nor healthy.