The Solution to Teenage pregnancy and increase in STD’s
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I agree 100%. The position most parents are taking is not good one. It’s their heavy handedness is what the problem is. Adults have to understand that these kids need guidance and not more rules. I’m sure that these teenagers know the risks involved. We are not in the 70’s anymore. They understand AIDS is not a homosexual disease they understand all of this. The school system is not failing us in this aspect.
Our society is trying to enforce rules that are impossible to enforce. You can not tell a teenager they are too young to have sex! I don’t want you do have sex! You better not have sex! And any variations of this line and think problem solved!
The majority of these children are being raised in single parent homes; over 60% according to US Census 2003. Parents work so there is no way they can shadow their children everywhere nor should they. I asked my wife today what do when plan on doing when our 15 year daughter comes home and tell us she is pregnant. My wife said “WHAT?! She is not going to get pregnant!, no, no not going to happen.” She was taking back by the question. Because we don’t have a 15 year old daughter but we eventually plan on have a couple more children and 50/50 chance one will be a girl. I currently have two boys 8 and 2. This is the attitude that is getting teenagers in trouble.
The solution is parents have to accept that their children will have sex! We as parents can’t imagine little innocent Lisa having with Millhouse but it is happening at an alarming rate. Because a little Lisa has developed a sense of self-respect she doesn’t see any harm in allow all the cute guys have intercourse with her. Sex feels good and naturally everyone likes to feel good. None of these boys had any interest in her until this point, she loves the attention.
A teenager I know, asked me why guys like to take girls from behind? I was shocked she would even asked me such a question but even more shocked when she clarified that she didn’t mean the position she mean anal. This was my wake-up call for me. She actually thought that this was normal everyone did this. I explained to her that it was not and started to educate her on the some things.
Parents have to accept this!
Sex education starts in the household the child will develop sexually habits for there parents if there mother thinks it OK to go to the clubs and bring home a different guy every weekend that creates a problem. The child may believe that sex is something you do with someone you just like and not something do with someone they love and plan on being with.
I was raised in a single parent home, and my view on relationship came from “The Wonder Years” I spent my first school years trying to court a pretty nerdy girl with glasses. I honestly thought walking her home enough times she would be my girlfriend. On the days that her mother came to pick her up, the deal was that I would just follow them a couple of yards behind and she would glance back and smile. Now, that I think about I was stalking her. Anyway…back to the topic at hand.
Children learn how to behavior from home first, then they pick up things in school and friends.
Parents must start this education early leading by example. “I love you mother this why you see me hugging and kissing her all the time.” I pretend to be jealous when my son hugs his mother…”Why are you trying to hug my girl” He replies “Well, that’s my mother and I love her too”. He knows at age 8 what type of touching is inappropriate. When I detect my children has an interest in a romantic relationship. I have to give them the talk.
The talk I already have planned out.
“Listen, I noticed that you are starting to take interest in Jack/Jill. I want you to be aware of certain things” He/she may want to cut me off and tell me that he/she knows but I have to tell them anyway.
“Listen there will be a time when you feel that you are ready to have sex. This decision is not mines only you know when it’s the time. When you feel it time I want you to tell me. I want you to be able to come to me or your mother with question regarding sex or just about anything. Here you know what this is. Here is a little keychain in there is a condom in there. I want you to put this on your key chain and carry this around at all times. There is a whole entire box of this in your socket draw. I don’t want you to give them to your friends they cost money I can’t support everyone. When you are getting low I want you to tell me and we will go to the Pharmacy to get some more. It’s nothing to be embarrassed about. I will not ask you questions about who you are having sex with but I would hope that you bring her around so me and your mother could meet the young lady. During sex you feel yourself about to climax I want you to pull out. After you ejaculate into this condom I want you to check it for any holes, or breaks. If you can’t tell take this condom in the bathroom and fill it will water and check. You have to go to the bathroom to clean up and so should this young woman. If the condom does have a hole or a break in it, I want you to get me on the phone with me not matter what time it is. She could get pregnant but there are spermicides, chemical that kills the sperm cells to prevent pregnancy. It’s very important that this spermicide is used shortly after this happens. I think I’m going to deep into it for right now so let me just tell you be careful and come to me or your mother if you have any questions.”
“If I’m speaking to my daughter I will remove some of the things but I have to add this. “I don’t let this young me ejaculate inside you. I want you to explain this to him. I want you to check the condom for breaks afterwards. If you decide to have sex I want to you to use additional protection this condom could break and if this young man ejaculates in you could get pregnant and don’t think you want a new born to take care of. You should be on a birth control system here is a couple of pamphlets I got from the doctors office. If you want me or your mother or both of us to go with you we will just let us know so we can take a day off. If you decide to have sex I will not be upset I rather you not start having sex but if you are going to do it you have to do it right.”
No subject should be off limits how much you share is about your sex life is up to you. But you want an open relationship. This in my opinion is the best way to prevent teenage pregnancy and increase in STD’s.