I can not have an orgasm unless my better half is playing with my "spot"---C Is there other ways, without doing that?

Technically, there are many different ways of having an orgasm... however, be grateful you can at least have one.

Many come on this forum saying that they can't have one. You found something that works for you.

You can also experiment with your partner... see what you like, what you don't like.

Yesterday, on the Oprah Show, Dr. Oz talked to a multi-orgasmic woman, and he mentioned that only 15% of women are multi-orgasmic. That is a very small number, but I believe that motivated women can achiever higher level orgasmic responses, mind-blowing orgasmic experiences, in much higher numbers.

Often, that involves rooting out and discarding societal, parental and religious constraints and repression on women's natural sexual bliss response. IN addition, learning about what *really* turns you on... digging into your psyche for those powerful overwhelming sexual turn-ons!

There are many levels of potential sexual bliss for women. The brain is the *powerful erogenous organ*, not the genitals and breasts and all other sensitive body parts. If you can get your brain involved as the primary sexual organ, you will be able to achieve higher and higher levels of bliss, and perhaps achieve the highest level called the Mystical Experience. :):):)

Best wishes in 2008,

Every one is different, so experiment, and enjoy the process of self discovery.

go to Amazon and buy "she comes first - a thinking mans guide to pleasuring a woman"... my partner and I have read it cover to cover (that and about a dozen other "sex books.. read for knowledge, it WILL help), and it has some useful stuff in there... you read it, then let him read it. Then go in to the bedroom and play.

that said, don't feel like a failure for needing some specific stim. My partner cannot... not with me, not with any other partner she's had... get off in the missionary position. It feels good for her, but just doesn't push her over the top.

cowgirl is her fav, or other positions where she can self stimulate with her fingers.

before her I dated a girl who could ALWAYS get off... all the time, every time... she loved missionary, but she needed some finger stim by me or by her.

the female anatomy is just so different from what the male anatomy needs sometimes. Hmm... lets put the woman's primary errogenous zone (though the cl!toral network runs ALL OVER the vulva) at a spot a ways away from much of the action. Lets innervate it twice as much as the penis, but away from the site where the most motion is going to come into play.

my experience is that you need to find your own fav positions, he needs to get into your head hard before he gets in your pants hard, and you need to roll with the punches.

if you can get yourself off by doing x,y,z... then this will probably translate into the bedroom... your needing x,y,z. in a perfect world you could get off every time, every position.

that, unfortunately, isn't the experience I've seen, at least with my partners.