FOR guys: Why won't he let his ex-gf go?
A little background history: She broke up with him because of long distance and didn't want to get hurt. Post-break up, they hooked up. But by the time she wanted to get back together, he didn't.
She still has feelings for him, which she's made pretty clear to him, first by asking him back and calling him one night to tell him that she misses him. He told her it couldn't work out because they were long distance and he couldn't see her when he wanted to. But, he said that they should leave it at that and discuss it when they both got back to school (it was right before winter vacation).
They talked a bit since then when suddenly, he stopped coming online. Recently she contacted him and wanted to meet up. He agreed and said he'd get back to her later. He did contact her later, but to say he was going drinking and would call her tomorrow. She contacted him again when he didn't. He wanted to meet up that day (to get it over with?), and they agreed to meet up next weekend.
What I don't understand is this: If he's not interested in her as above story clearly shows, and he knows that she still has feelings for him, why won't he just tell her outright that no they should not meet up. Why won't he tell her it's over for real?? She obviously can't let go or just be "friends" without getting hurt, so why won't he help her if he once cared for her?
I don't get it!