Im hurting because I miss a woman that for three yrs has lied to me even failing to tell me about her hiv status we moved right in together I was just coming out of divorce she has a long drug history and I followed into it the whole time she lied and I suspected many times she cheated we lost a child to the system. Recently she went to jail and was transferd 5 hrs away when she got out she promised me to stay at her friends house then I get a call 1 hr later that she went to the bar with her ex.I drove the next day to get her. Then we just lost our apt. Im staying with my ex wife who's helping me were not together I want to finally end this relationship but every time I try she cries very badly and I feel guilty and can't seem to let go why do I miss someone who treated me like crap for three yrs and is no good for me please help.:( :(

if she's hurting you then let her go.and if she can't understand why then she wouldnt be able to understand any other problems.And being scared that leaving her will hurt her,then think about how its hurting you staying with her.

Dude you need to just suck it up and leave, She's no good for you and YOU know it. Cut her out of your life don't contact her again and focus on yourself

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Originally Posted by leeleee

Im hurting because i miss a woman that for three yrs has lied to me even failing to tell me about her hiv status we moved right in together i was just comming out of divorce she has a long drug history and i followed into it the whole time she lied and i suspected many times she cheated we lost a child to the system. recently she went to jail and was transferd 5 hrs away when she got out she promised me to stay at her friends house then i get a call 1 hr later that she went to the bar with her ex.I drove the next day to get her. then we just lost our apt. Im staying with my ex wife whos helping me were not together i want to finally end this relationship but everytime i try she cries very badly and i feel guilty and can't seem to let go why do i miss someone who treated me like crap for three yrs and is no good for me please help.:( :(

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Read the first two stickys on this page..

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/

Also, ask yourself why you get stuck on 'toxic waste' and what happened to your self-respect.

The scene you selected was not the best to begin with so why did you not 'protect' yourself? It sounds like you are intentionally trying to punish yourself for some reason - find out what that reason is and start liking yourself again, enough to want to straighten out your life. A lot of people have it hard in life, but to deliberately go out looking for trouble does not 'compute'.

Whatever was missing in your life a long time ago, it's time to drop that issue and set new goals that will lead to happiness and not destruction.

Good luck dear, and keep us posted.

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Your either a glutton for punishment, or need professional help, or both.