I am now in week 7 of NC.We broke up after a stupid argument,my fault.She wouldn't answer my phone calls or reply to my text messages.After a week of this I had to meet her at her job in order to talk to her.Anyway she said I overstepped the mark and that's it.She said she loves me but hates what I did.Anyway the question is could sheer pride or stubbornness hold her from contacting me?Could she be hoping that I'll come back begging and hold out until I do?I just know that we deeply love each other and there is no third party.Should I hold out with the NC?

What did you do to make her so mad?

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Did you read the first two stickys above?

Can I assume that even though you need advice, your are not the type to open up enough to strangers? Can I assume then that by overstepping the mark as she said, you kept something vital from her because you are the type that does not communicate openly that much at all? If I am correct in my assumptions, then the first step for you to take is obvious, isn't it?

So.. start communicating, man, or nothing you do will work out the way you would like it to.

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Originally Posted by talaniman

What did you do to make her so mad?

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Well one night we were out my way (I live 15 miles away) and we had a row.I told her she wasn't staying in my house that night,she could stay in my friends.She became furious,stormed out and got a taxi home.Next day she came to collect her things.After that I tried to make contact.The rest you know from my first post.

I am assuming this was not the first mark you over stepped but maybe the one that did it for her. I could be wrong.
I don't think she is being stubborn by not contacting you, she is serious. She may be done, finished.
A woman can be stubborn and not contact you as can a man, either way there is not much you can do about it.

I need more info to gauge what kind of relationship you had with her, and need to know what led to a man not taking his date home? I would be PO'd at you also, if you pulled that with me. You would be history. I suspect this isn't the first time either.

We had stormy relationship.We argued like many couples,but we had a very strong bond,and even after 31/2 years still talked all night and we're so happy when just the two of us were together.
On four separate occasions she threw me out of her house because of disagreements(not arguements)On one occasion I had to sleep in my car as it was 3am and nowhere to go.
Every morning on each occasion she would be on the phone apologising.I always accepted the apology,because I love her.We would go straight back to normal,as if it never happened(probably why she did it so often)Of course this is where I got my idea when she was out my way.Anyway I am not saying what I did was right,but why she can't forgive me,knowing she did the same to me 4 times.I know she truly loved me at the time.I just hoped that she would forgive me and want us to work things out.I treat her fantasticly.She admitted in the past that she causes a lot of our rows.Just can't believe our time is up,it doesn't feel right.The love is still there from my side,and I'm sure from hers.

So you decided to flip the script on her, since you had the upperhand, this time. So now you know she can dish it out, but can't take it. What you did was not cool, stooping to her level, but you learned something, and honestly you should not have taken her throwing you out, and weasling back to do it again, and again. This pattern of abuse is so unhealthy, and why you want more of the same is beyond me. Keep no contact and do the things you enjoy with people you enjoy. This ain't the love you want, or need.

Thank you for your response.I realise that you are right.I should never have allowed her to treat me in that manner.It was immature of me to "copy" her.I know she has a lot of insecurity issues.I suppose it is best to let her deal with her demons.If she realises that we were both wrong,at least that's something.I will follow your advice and stay in NC.Your advice makes so much sense.God Bless