hi,
my best mate at school keeps on talking and hanging round with other girls.when I asked her about it she said they were just her friends but I was still being moody with her.now she thinks that I said I don't want her to communicate with any of them, I didn't mean that but she has told her helper that she wants to have enough courage to say sha=e wants to talk to them and no she won't stop for my sake.I haven't even asked her to in the first place.how do I explain this to her WITHOUT her finding out I know she told her helper about me as that would annoy her more?! :confused: :confused: :( :(

Are you jealous of your friend hanging around and talking to the other girls?

You should tell your boyfriend that you feel you arn`t spending engoght time to gether and you just want to hang more and not feel ignored. I she really is your friend shell understand

But she doesn't think I no how she feels

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Originally Posted by Lauralovely31

but she dosent think i no how she feels

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How do you think that she feels?

She feels like I am trying to make her stop talking them but I'm not.wat shall I do!!

Are these other girls your friends at all?

Yes they are but they sort of like her more than they like me.wat do I do!

What have you already said to your friend to make her think that you don't want her to see the other girls?

I said that she always hung around with them and she was lying when she said they wernt her proper friend.aswell as that one of them invited her to a sleepover she told me she wasn't going but told the gril she was.

How old are you, please? Knowing that will help us to help you more.

Also, what do you mean by "helper" in the first things that you wrote at the top of this page?

I am in year8 and by helper I mean a sort of mentor mainl because her mum died when she was 8 so oce every week she goes and talks t the women about stuff

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Originally Posted by Lauralovely31

i am in year8 and by helper i mean a sort of mentor mainl because her mum died wen she was 8 so oce every week she goes and talks t the women about stuff

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Okay, I see. Thank you!

So, you have already told your friend that she was lying?

Yes I told her I knew she was lying and at the same time I also said the stuff about her always being with them.I don't know why but she thinks I said something completely different.if I tell her how I no she told her helper it will make her even more angry and I don't want that.also one of the girls has found out what I said!

Do you know how to apologize to people? It's okay to do that, you know. Before things get much deeper with the problem, it would probably be best that you apologized for accusing her of lying.

But she did lye! All I want her to no is that I don't want her to stop talking to them but for her to talk to me a bit more!

Okay, sorry!

How about saying something to her like, "I know that we both have friends and that sometimes because of that, we don't get to see each other all that much. I really like you as a friend and hope that we can spend more time together than we already have. Would you help me with that?"

Or, something along those lines. Possible? :)

OK I will try that but how do I no when to say it I can't just blurt it out

In answer to your private message. Yes, I am still answering your questions.

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ok i will try that but how do i no when to say it i can't just blurt it out

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You are still speaking with each other on a regular basis, correct? Or, is there a problem even doing that?