:confused: my boyfriend dumped me and I found out recently he was cheating on me:mad: no he blames me and tells everyone I am clingy tonight I have to go to a dinner with him and his new girl who has a baby pleas help me... I don't want to lose my cool

Wow this one is complicated its good he dumped you although you are now feeling pain he was the one doing wrong now get you a date and sit at the table as if you don't know who he is don't show that yopu are uncomfortable and treat her as if you are the bestest friends although you obviously hate her

First, forget going to dinner with him and his "new" girl friend. What is that anyway? Get on with your life and forget the looser.

Why would you go on a date with him and his girlfriend in the first place? I would just blow it off and say you just remebered you already had plans with your other friend.

Good luck!

Why would you even thing about dinner with him and his new girlfriend, move on with your lfie.

I agree with the others he wasn't responsible to you so I don't see why you would feel obligated to do anything with/for him.

By the time I read this post I realized it was too late. After reading your question, I discovered you have more to deal with than your boyfriend. You sound insecure, impulsive and a victim of abuse.

1. You do not need to go to dinner with him. To even consider it is ridiculous. If he dumped you, has been cheating on you and thinks you are clingy, then there is no reason you should be near him. Why would you want to be with someone who treats you this way? Why would you subject yourself to be ridiculed?

2. Start dating yourself. Take yourself to dinner, to the movies, to the mall, out for a drink (if you are old enough that is). Do things that make you happy. Take time to wash behind the ears, apply lotion to your body, get a manicure/pedicure, brush your hair in different styles. Look at yourself and tell yourself how beautiful you are. Date yourself.

3. Spend more time getting to know yourself. Truly getting to know what you want, what your goals are, what your plans are for the future. Know what you want. This way you won't fall for anything else.

4. Stay busy. Go out with friends; go to the gym; take yoga/pilates. Make a routine for you.

5. Think positive. Whenever you find yourself thinking negatively, stop yourself. Say it loud "Stop". Reinforce positive thinking and remember your goals.

6. Everything we go through in life is a teaching experience. We must go through a lot of these breakups in order to make us a better person. There is someone out there for you who will love you just because.


I promise that every day that passes is on day closer to getting better. Our utlimate goal in life is happines. Pray for happiness. You'll discover that whether you live in a box or a mansion, it doesn't matter because you are happy.

I wish you happiness.

Zenia