Hi everyone. Tonight my husband and I got into an argument. He wanted to go out with his friend he has not seen in years after his friend got off work. Well his friend got off work at 9:30 PM. I told my husband I didn't like him going out so late. He says I am keeping him under a rock and then from no where starts saying that he is sexually frustrated with me. I don't know what to do. Part of me thinks he is having an affair. But I don't want to believe that he would do that to me. I don't understand how he is sexually frustrated with me. We are always trying new things, and we have sex at least once a day. Maybe he just doesn't want to have sex with me anymore. I am very pregnant right now so I am wondering if maybe I am not attractive to him anymore. I don't know. Any way that is my worry. I don't know what to think or how to feel. Have any of you gone through this?

No one seams to have answered your question, an I think its because they are thinking the same as me an u, its hard but sometimes the truth hurts, hun, trust your instints. The excuse he used to go out so late is very poor, an then to be thinking ov sex at the same time makes me think that he was using this excuse to be seeking some releife from another woman... I feel bad putting that but that's what I would be thinking if I was u. really you need to confront him... tell him what you think an how his comment made you feel. Take it from there babe, but don't bottle it all up inside, spesh when your pregnant, you don't need such stress. Xx get bk to me, let me know how you get on, xx thoughts are with u

When I talked to him a little bit ago he was still with his friend. I met his friend this afternoon before he went to work. It just doesn't add up. I don't know. I am hurting so badly. I love him so much. I gave up everything for him. I don't know what to do or what to say.

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Originally Posted by brokenheartedmommy

Hi everyone. Tonight my husband and I got into an argument. He wanted to go out with his friend he has not seen in years after his friend got off work. Well his friend got off work at 9:30 PM. I told my husband I didn't like him going out so late. He says I am keeping him under a rock and then from no where starts saying that he is sexually frustrated with me. I don't know what to do. Part of me thinks he is having an affair. But I don't want to believe that he would do that to me. I don't understand how he is sexually frustrated with me. We are always trying new things, and we have sex at least once a day. Maybe he just doesn't want to have sex with me anymore. I am very pregnant right now so I am wondering if maybe I am not attractive to him anymore. I don't know. Any way that is my worry. I don't know what to think or how to feel. Have any of you gone through this?

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Hang in there hun, when he comes home I'm sure he would have had a few to drink, maybe its best left to him to talk when his sober... I feel your heart ache, but also remember, being pregnant makes you almost twice as emotional.

I know. We have a two year old as well. I remember the emotional thingy very well. I don't think he will have been drinking. He hates alcohol. But he will be tired. I guess to him this is not late. He works the night shift at both his jobs. I work late too at both my jobs. Latest I work though is about 11. I do stay up hella late on those nights. He normally gets off around 11 or midnight himself. So maybe this is just staying on his schedule...

Well I talked to him. I guess when he went over there it was to help his friend out. His friend is suicidal because he is going through a rather nasty divorce. My husband was there to basically watch him and make sure he did nothing to hurt himself. Now the sexually frustrated thing came from I guess me not trusting him. He says it is frustrating to have me not trust him. Especially since I don't have a reason to not trust him. Then he started to go off on how I refuse to let him ejaculate in my mouth. As I said before I am pregnant and for those of you who know how pregnancy can be. I get nausaues really easy. With my first I was sick the ENTIRE pregnancy. The twins are going the same damn way. It sucks! But he says he wouldn't feel so frustrated and when he went off on me the other night it was because he built up a lot over time and when I got mad at him for something he finally let go. I think that is unhealthy. And told him so. Now he has promised to try to talk to me about things that bug him. That way we can have a more healthy and honest relationship. I guess he didn't want me to know why he was going over there so late was because he didn't want me to worry about his friend. He didn't want me to stress over it and possibly go into preterm labor. I am a very high risk pregnancy and on bed rest so I can understand that.
Any thoughts?