Drama queen daughter almost 21 and single mom
My almost 21 yr old daughter hasn't changed since she was 13. We now have a beautiful 2+ granddaughter, but her mom (our daughter) is clueless, lazy, selfish and on the verge of homelessness. She has burned most of her bridges with people willing to empower her, including us. I am tired of her scenes, that I have endured for 8+ years. She has been in and out of treatment. Did a stint at JobCorp with no skills because she quit. She just got fired from her 2month old job and is calling us for money to pay her rent, electric, car, insurance and cell phone. Oh, and food, of course. Well, I am not feeling very charitable of late. She has a young sister we are busy with and raising. She got pregnant on purpose and said she is planning on having two more within the next five years. No spouse or boyfriend is in the picture. She is not pursuing any education or trade and does not keep her precious daughter on any kind of schedule. She's a mess and I really don't feel sorry for her. She has chosen her current path. If I knew she would be responsible and stable I would be willing to help her, but she is just manipulative and I am just plain tired. Do I do tough love with her and tell her good luck? Our granddaughter would end up with the father's parents, and she would be safe. Custody of our granddaughter is a 50 split currently. Father was abusive, but my daughter is showing abusiveness/neglect towards our granddaughter. I think our daughter needs counseling, but that is a sore subject with her because heaven forbid she get a clue. I feel clueless because I get so frustrated with this whole situation and I can't seem to communicate with her. I know I haven't said glowing things about my daughter and I do love her and do control the words I speak when with her. In other words, I do not put her down, but I am not willing to enable her. HELP!! :confused: :confused: