I have finally found a best friend that I haven't had for over 25 years and she has some issues with depression . Since I haven't had a friend in over 25 years because of my home life I want this to work and feel like my friend is like a sister and my best friend . She has had a man in her life that has caused her some extreme emotional stress and I have always been their to support her with no judgments and have said tell me everything or nothing it is what ever you need I will be their 24/7 no matter what and I have been called plenty of times for support she has a problem with lying about what she does with him and she says its because she doesn't want to lose me as a friend and I constantly say I don't judge and I will be their no matter what her counselor told her she should dump him and because she is growing he wants to keep her down so he can control things it goes back and forth a lot. Well I feel that I just wanted her to know I will be their no matter what because that is what I want in a friendship and she does have issues from an abusive divorce situation but it seems like when she lies she is spending time with him and doesn't like it when her kids mention his name in front of me which bothers me I would and have never asked her kids about those things and she gets mad at her kids when the say his name in front of me. Well a week ago she told me that she thinks I am the one trying to hold her down to control things and it hurt me really bad she blamed it on her depression I cried and she commented on that because I have never done anything but help her find ways to know she can do things on her own and will make it and I think she wanted to hurt me to justify her being with him this weekend without telling me . But now I am starting to buy into I am the one with the problem I don't want to lose her as my besst friend and I don't know what to do:(