Hi there. Me and my Husband have been married for over a year now and I can't seem to get an orgasm when he's on top. But I can when I'm the one doing the work. And we have tried different things but nothing seems to work. Does anyone else have this problem or have any advice? I just want to lay back and enjoy the ride;) Thanks Amber

You probably need the clitoral stimulation, which can easily be achieved with you on top but not him. There are a loads of positions where he could be doing the work but reach round with his hand as well. Don't know how much detail I can get into on here... Anyway try buying a good book on positions and have a go experimenting.

I'm no expert but personal experience makes me think this is the case.

Also perhaps he could go down on you, which is pretty easy for you and queit effective for a lot of women.

That's my random thoughts hope they help :)

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Originally Posted by templelane

You probably need the clitoral stimulation, which can easily be achieved with you on top but not him. There are a loads of positions where he could be doing the work but reach round with his hand as well. Don't know how much detail I can get into on here... Anyway try buying a good book on positions and have a go experimenting.

I'm no expert but personal experience makes me think this is the case.

Also perhaps he could go down on you, which is pretty easy for you and queit effective for a lot of women.

That's my random thoughts hope they help :)

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He could go down me? Haha I have no clue what that means... I'm sheltered... lol:o

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Originally Posted by wolf5

he could go down me?? haha I have no clue what that means...I'm sheltered...lol:o

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Guide him. Tell him what to do. I agree, you probably need clitoral stimulation. Oral sex is great for this.

I am the same way unless I get clitoral stimulation... my husband is the right size... but we use a little toy. Cock Ring that has a vibrator the hits my while I ride him. Perfect fit because I get to feel around and control the pressure and intensity neededto get my orgasm... If he rides me (missionary) We had to try a few different positions for my legs to be for him to hit the G - SPOT, but once you figure it out is it AWESOME!

The G-Spot is different for different bodies, so it is important to figure out where yours is for you, PLAY WITH YOURSELF HONEY, THEN YOU CAN TELL HIM WHERE IT IS AND WHERE IT IS NOT!:cool:

Man on top position... ( Missionary) is about the worst for female stimulation. Now the Woman on top is the opposite. Try riding him... if he's normal he'll love it and you will get more out of it as well.

I have the same problem I always orgasm if I'm on top but if he's on top nothing happens.
But I've still not found the answer yet so I'm hoping some of your answers will help me too.
But my next thing was to try a vibrating cock ring to see what that does.

Thank you.
Jo xx

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Originally Posted by joanne1986

I have the same problem i always orgasim if im on top but if hes on top nothing happens.
but ive still not found the answer yet so im hoping some of your answers will help me too.
but my next thing was to try a vibrating cock ring to see what that does.

thank you.
jo xx

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Its all in positioning yourself, and a bigger part is him knowing what to do... even then the man on top really just isn't good for getting many women off. Mostly due to physiological reasons. Some women have the cl1t right next to the vaginal opening others are far enough away to make stimulation hit or miss in the wrong positions ( just one example). Result being many women just aren't going to get off in missionary without self stimulation.

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Originally Posted by smoothy

End result being many women just aren't going to get off in missionary without self stimulation.

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This is absolutely true.

Not all can take direct cl!toral stimulation by a partner, or by self stim during sex, but its something you should try. My personal experience... missionary is a position my partner enjoys, but she doesn't reach orgasm. Not with me. Not with previous partners. Other positions, such as woman on top, are much more productive. Some positions also require her to self stimulate with a wet finger as well.

Explain to your mate that this is about getting multiple stimulations, not about his not being enough. The first time a partner self stimulated during sex it was a little surprising, but the results were great. When a partner does this during sex I never think "im doing this wrong"... I think "shes doing everything she can to hit orgasm" and its sexy as sin.

One woman I dated could always get off in missionary with direct finger stimulation. She was "unique" in that she could take more direct, stronger stimulation... meaning I could be inside her, raised up off her, and use my hand to stimulate her cl!toris. Worked like a charm all the time.

But other partners wouldn't care for such direct, strong pressure.

You can try to vary the angle some by position, such as at the edge of the bed or a deep chair, or ask him to focus less on the movement in and out of you, and more on rocking or circular motion against your mons pubis (the area just above your cl!toris), which also causes him to move inside you more in circles, stimulating areas to the sides that can also be sensitive.

In some variations of missionary, where you are a little more toward one side, top leg raised, and he's at more of a side angle, more kneeling... you can actually self stimulate yourself and sometimes "catch" his shaft with a finger and he moves in and out... meaning you might do yourself a favor and at the same time introduce new sensations on his side.

No matter what you do, don't fret. Its not at all uncommon to favor some positions.