My EX Wants me back after three DAYS
Hi, this forum is friggin awesome... I came across it a couple of days ago while looking up ways to get my ex girlfriend back (pathetic, I know).
If you're not into reading rambling stories, here's the abstract: My GF of 2.5 yrs told me she wanted to meet other people two months ago. She made the next two months a living hell for me by acting very distant while I acted all needy... and that pushed her away even more. We finally broke up three days ago. I didn't contact her at all, but she called me last night bawling her eyes out wanting to get back. She is still the world to me but I don't want to let her off so easy. What should I do?
And here's the long version of the story:
I'm 26 and the girl is 24, and we've been going out for 2 and a half years. It's been long-distance (7 hour drive) the entire time, but we've seen each other at least once a month sometimes for weeks at a time. She was crazy about me and I felt the same about her for the first 2 years. We talked about marriage and kids and I thought my future with her was set.
Then a couple months ago, we were both going through some very tough times in our respective lives and started neglecting each other a little bit, and eventually things got pretty bad. That's when out of the blue she said she wanted to meet new people. She told me that she'd had a couple of drinks with another guy (an older guy), and that he had made her realize how immature I was. She wasn't interested in meeting this guy again or anything, but it just opened her eyes I guess...
She had been the WORLD to me and I was pretty devastated, so I became all needy and called her and begged her to come back. That went on for more than a month and the more I did that, the further I pushed her away (if only I had checked out this site BEFORE taking that route). So anyway, three days ago, it all came to a head, and she said it was OVER. But when I got up to leave she started bawling her eyes out, telling me she still loved me and she wasn't sure and all that. But we promised no contact and I left.
A day later she called me crying and telling me she couldn't function without me. Two days later she called again and told me she thought this was a mistake and that she was sorry. She basically wants to get back together now-- after all the pain she's put me through. Deep inside I'm still crazy about her and I'd get back with her in a second but I have a feeling I should play this situation to my advantage. I'm still on a strict no contact policy, so I never call her or email her (I picked up that tactic from this forum)... and I think that's making her feel the void in her life. But where should I go from here? I'm confused about how/ when to take her back. If I play it cool for too long I'm worried she'll lose interest and move on... I also dropped some hints about me possibly meeting a girl.. and that's probably ramping up her jealousy too... Should I stop playing games and take her back?? I NEED HER.