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I feel so alone.

:( I feel so alone. I fell for a married man as I posted a long time ago. Everyone told me he's a loser, but I fell in love with him. And nobody understands how I feel. I was with him 24/7 for a year. And then just one day its all gone. How am I supposed to deal with it. Am I supposed to wallow, cry all day. Or not think about it. Nobody wants to listen to me when I talked, so I keep it all in. and I cry when I'm alone. Then I think if I go on dates then I will feel better. So I set then up, then when it comes to that day. I cancel the date. Can anybody help me.

Well, in dealing with the loss of a loved one either by break up or death, we have to go through a grieving process. It takes time.

My ex fiancé of 5 years broke up with me again. It's been over 5 months since she did this to me. The first 3 months were pretty bad. I cried a lot didn't wan't to go out stayed in my house (confort zone). Until you let go you will start to get better. I have, but it does get better. I still hurt but not as bad. It just takes time. Coming here to this site has helped me so much. But don't worry about dating heal yourself and get healthy. If this person does call leave him alone it will only delay the process.

SAB123 is right... losing someone hurts. And it seems like it will hurt forever and it does, but with time it starts to hurt less. Don't let him back into your life, because that will only make it harder to let go the secondtime around. Just try being with close friends and loved ones. They know you well and will know how to cheer you up.:)

He keeps on calling and calling. But he doesn't talk. He plays music. Love songs and others. He uses different numbers all the time. Then he texts me all the time and I tell him to leave me alone but he stays he loves me and he wants to be with me. What do I do? Nobody knows that I was dating him expect for my aunt.

Don't answer and you need to change your cell number. By him doing this he will keep you emotionally down and you will never get over him. If this continues I would get a restraining order against him.

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Originally Posted by marie302

:( I feel so alone. i fell for a married man as i posted a long time ago. everyone told me hes a loser, but i fell in love with him. and nobody understands how i feel. i was with him 24/7 for a year. and then just one day its all gone. How am i supposed to deal with it. am i supposed to wallow, cry all day. or not think about it. nobody wants to listen to me when i talked, so i keep it all in. and i cry when im alone. Then i think if i go on dates then i will feel better. So i set then up, then when it comes to that day. i cancel the date. can anybody help me.

I wish I had the answer for you. I was married seven years. Best thing in my life. Then one day she decided DONE. Up and gone. Even before we divorced, she was seeing other people. Got pregnant. Called me after 1.5 years wanting to get back together. Her baby was only 4 months old and needed a father. So I agreed. From July until December, she led me to believe that we were going to make this work and I was to be the boy's father. He and I quickly bonded. And then, in December of last year, just before Christmas, but after she had gotten all the gifts and clothes she needed for her and the baby: she announced she was going back to the other guy... the bum who she wishes would die and who doesn't even love his other children, much less this little boy. I am totally grief-stricken. It hurts more than any other tragedy I have ever lived through. I was forgiving and loving and willing to be the man that the other guy refuses to be... but... to no avail. And I hurt.