Do I work it through or leave after 6 years . I'm only 23
I hope you can help me out. I’m so confused. I’m 23 year old women and in a relationship the past 6 years to a guy I went to school with we are both 23 and live just down the road from each other. At school we were always just friend, that’s was all. But on the last day of school something brought us together we were only 17 with no cares in the world.. just enjoying the summer together. Then it just got serious.. we went to the school prom / debs together. And every since we just hit it off.. as I live in a small town everyone knows everyone and everything about everyone.. so everyone just always taught we’d be together forever. We get on well very well most of the time.. I am a jealous person but he can be worse so that can cause argument, we are now planning on building a house beside his home house in the next coming weeks, the mortgage is all approved and ready to go! Our relationship is a friendly kind of one, on our days off we go cinema , or get a take out. We moved in together just for 6 months to see how we get on… all we did was row so I use to just get tic and go to my friends or go out with my friends because I just couldn’t take it no more, then the reason we fight (he said) was because I didn’t care about him and I never bothered with.. all I did was went out with friends.. I just couldn’t win or wait to go home .When we go clubbing we go together but end up sit chatting other ends of the bar to friends. I enjoy my nites out with the girls as I can be me.. eg: he does not really like when I wear a mini skirt as he said he gets slagged from his mates because they eye me up! I feel like I have lost all my confidence and find myself very quiet when we are out. I am normally a very out going chatty person but rather than have a row I just sit and be quiet! Are sex life is fine but he expects sex 24/7 and rows / get thick with me if I don’t.. So I stand up to him a lot.. so there another row! I have some bads sides too, like I'm very stubborn and find I always want my way.. so this ends up in rows! I just feel I'm in a big hole I can't get out off. Underneath it I love my boyfriend.. but I'm not happy.. its like I love him but I'm not in love with him.. but how could I tell him. How could I tell his family or mine or friends.. we are all so close and feel it will be very hard! I care for him so much and really do not want to hurt him. What should I do ? I can't go on like this not been totally happy, maybe (as we always say) oh we’ll work though it.. but it just always seems to come back.
There a guy in the same town (lets call him Pat) really nice bloke that I had my eye on years ago.. put just always remained friends/ someone id say hi to or might have a quick chat as I went to school & college with his sister and we are quiet close, but he seems to really like me a good while now (as in a few years) he has a girlfriend of 2 years but has already told her he needs time and that his feelings are stronger from me.. he has said he’d make me so much happier and is finishing it with his girlfriend for me ( as he know my current boyfriend) and has asked me to think about things.. he want me to be happy and he said he has fallen for me.. maybe I'm just better off with neither but “pat” is a great guy and always think about him from time to time.. he just seems so much different than my current boyfriend!
I would love if someone gave me some advance I am really so confused.
Thanks in advance all