Daughter won't have anything to do with me
Here I sit writing this still wondering what happened. I am a single mom who raised her daughter alone, gave her a very nice life complete with saving all her child support for her college fund, bought her a new car at 16, paid her rent for her apt at the university, paid for all her bills, took her grocery shopping every week for food, told her I loved her everyday of her life and truly felt it was a priveledge to have had the opportunity to have raised her. Now I just miss her. She met her current fiancé and since then has connected tightly to her fiancé and father who saw her once a year her entire childhood because he was working overseas and thought a phone call once a week was good enough. I objected to her choice of fiancés due to his uncle being a registered sex offender whom the fiancés family say "Never did anything wrong". Myself being a worker in children's protective services for the state I know better, people don't take pleas if they are innocent. My daughter and her fiancé see him at every holiday (I worry for my future grandchildren being around him), she never comes to see me anymore, I don't even have her new address at the university. She graduated with her B.S. and now is working on her Masters at 22, she told me her father is taking care of her bills which she is splitting with her boyfriend since he has now moved in. My ex husband told me I just need to email her and let it be, well I tried that and wasn't even invited to her graduation, her fiancés mother was though. Every holiday she goes to see her fiancés family and I sit here alone. She is my only child. If I call her she never answers, the phone goes to voicemail and the last time she did answer she said "What do you want?, I am busy but I will give you 5 mins., I was crushed. Even with all the psych in my own degree/line of work I can honestly say I am just heart broken. My daughters fiance controls her so much I can't even take her shopping for shoes without him coming along and telling her what she "Cant" have, this of course infuriates me. I just don't understand how a child can change from being so very independent to being so dependent in 3 years. Has anyone else had a similar experience?