Stressed because there is no closure - dead lock! Help me
My husband wanted to buy me a car. We selected a car and paid an advance. Later I was unsure and told my husband I don't like the colour of the car. I feel so bad and guilty. I wsa SO stupid. The car dealer company belongs to the father of a close friend of my husband.(we realised this after we paid the advance to the salesman who was dealing with us in the compnay) my husband feels really bad because he didn't keep his promise to buy the car and the compnay belongs to his friends father. (the salesman who was handling us in the company was abit rude and said he'' pay the money 'if' the car is sold to someone else. It was just a verbal thins). I feel bad because I let my husband down like this. I should have been more active in the buying process. I wasn't until he paid the advance.Grrrr.. now we are all in a deadlock situation. My husband keeps telling me to forget about the advance and look for another car. He says he's not going to 'pester' them. They can give it 'if' they want. He feels guilty to ask for the money. (my husband is generally a person who values friendship more than money). I keep telling myself 'Why didn't I open my mouth at that time and tell him I didn't like the colour'. Grr.. the fact was I wasn't sure but later really hated the cari asked my husband several times to ask his friends dad and now my husband is annooyed with ME! (). It is all a mess. Such a mess. It's two weeks now and my heart and mind is all so stressed. I don't know what to do. We are so fedup because of this terrible mistake that now we don't know where to go to select a car. Please advise me how to get over this.
Comment on JudyKayTee's post
The other posted questions were long ago. Although they may be similar in factual ways, they are different in terms of human relationships, moral obligations and financial behavior. What we have here is an emotional well-being issue based in legal actions.
Comment on JudyKayTee's post
Hi. I did not put the other post you mentioned. Tx.