There's a lady that did a few things like hug me ask for my name and tried to call me I think she send me a bunch of mix message I think she likes me but I'm kind of confused I'm a lesbian and I think she's one too
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There's a lady that did a few things like hug me ask for my name and tried to call me I think she send me a bunch of mix message I think she likes me but I'm kind of confused I'm a lesbian and I think she's one too
You could ask her. We don't know her so we don't know if she wants a relationship with you.
I know I can do that but this all happen during my work and she's my client and I don't know how I can ask her and stay professional about my work and when she's wanted to hug I had to avoided her hug I turned and touch her back with affection
If she is your client then she is off limits as far as an intimate relationship goes. Keep it business-like.
My field give me the right to date or have a relationship with my clients out of my work time but how can I let her know how I feel for her or ask her how she feel for me if when I see her its only as a client was thinking go where she goes out of my work area like a certain bar I think I will try that but thanks for trying to help me though
No, there is no field, where having a relationship with a client is a good idea. End of discussion. A failed relationship will harm business relations.
I prefer to have her in my personal life n she can become client of another co-worker if we become serious but I understand your point of vue thanks
You have such grand plans for someone you cannot even talk to. What are you afraid of?
The issue with any relationship, is one of you, has to take a risk and say something,
Sometimes your afraid to talk fears of rejection as my grand plan I have no plan except trying to know her real feelings towards me as you most all known woman send mix signals and nothing really clear and simple I know I'm a woman lol but this Week will try to clarified the situation and thanks
If she is your client she needs to know your name, and most likely your number. As for the hug. Many women are huggers. Don't read too much in to this.
Peoples real feelings are seldom known for months as they, while maybe willing to experiment and explore possibilities, don't know themselves, so don't be insecure, and take it personally. You talk and find out, as there are more rejections than not, and its always been that way, so its your own fears of rejection that makes this such a big deal.
Fear in itself is a mixed signal, when it comes to inviting another adult for a drink outside of work.
Yes your right talaniman :-)
Im afraid that she don't have feelings for me because I do have feelings for her and really never made first move in my life didn't have too but I have the feeling she thinks the same and that's she's afraid to to be honest fears of rejection too probably lol but if I look back at what happen so far she's did more that I did so I guess now I will just go and jump and admit no matter what will be the result because not knowing make me sick and I cant keep going like this anymore thanks for the extra push I needed... Julie
I hope it works out for you, but if she is offended it could backfire and you could lose your job. Are you prepared for that?
No danger for my job because I will do this after work neutral place public place and video are use to protect us that's why I avoid her direct hug when she wanted to hug me out of my work area I cant be touch unless its criminal charges or civil charges but just asking I'm I wrong sherril or do have personal feelings for me as a woman its not illegal all I can do after avoid her as my client and stated for personal reasons that's all but thanks for warning me
There is plenty of danger to your job. She is your client and if you approach her about a relationship, and she does not reciprocate your feelings, you could be setting yourself up for a sexual harassment charge. Just asking that question could be construed as sexual harassment by the wrong person.Quote:
Originally Posted by julie2015
I guess I will have to take the risk but asking someone if she as personal feelings for you not really a sexual harrasement but I was asking her to have sex with her yes but that video will show I avoid her hug in case she turns around but sherril. A very caring and honest lady someone you can trust and won't makeup story nothing sexual in this phrase to you have personal feelings for me I do have a background in law field no my rights that's why I avoid her hug during my work because its was to intimate but because of me avoiding her hug you can see tears in her eyes and I'm stuck with that image in my memory and its hurt because I really want to hug her too and tell her I'm here and I care for u :-(
Asking a someone if they have feelings for you can indeed be construed as sexual harassment. Apparently you have no knowledge of corporate law.Quote:
Originally Posted by julie2015
Simply forwarding a funny email could be considered sexual harassment if the person you forwarded it to doesn't agree with your train of thought b
Then j 9 unless she make first real move next week I will out of my work context and if I get in trouble we can blame it on love lol because I can keep this for myself anymore 3 months enough one of my co workers marry his client and met her same way and he ask her out after work though
julie, may I ask what type of work you do?
You seem to be hanging your hopes on an aborted hug and her asking for your name. If she is your client, shouldn't she already have your name?
Understand that a someone who is hurting can say things that aren't exactly true in an effort to hurt the person who hurt them. You seem to think a video at work would protect you from any fallout but it can't and won't if she claims your harassment was outside of the workplace.
Frankly, I do not recommend dating or even thinking about romantic relations with someone connected to your work. I include other employees, bosses, and clients. It is too easy for misconstrued words or actions to cause major issues and cost people far more than they realize.
If you do contact her, start out as a friend not a potential lover. You may find that she was looking for a friend instead of something "more". You might even attempt to apologize for what she may have perceived as rude behavior.
I can't say here what type of work I do and at my work we go by nick name only not the family name my work field it's a public services but as a professional some of my co- worker did a lot worse then just asking to a lady if she as personal feelings I'm not a therapist but video are in action as it's a public place
Yes anyhow friendship will be the starter thanks for your concerned
So did Julie get the girl? Inquiring minds.
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