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Shift manager

So I like my shift manager but I don't know if he likes me back he has a wife n two kids he would sometimes say to me oh you're breaking my heart and give me puppy dog eyes WHAT SHOULD I DO

Ignore him and do your work.

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

Ignore him and do your work.

But it's hard to when I'm the cashier

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Originally Posted by Jojoisfly12

But it's hard to when I'm the cashier

He's married and a father and off limits. I've been a cashier and yes, you can ignore him -- or at least his flirty comments.

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

He's married and a father and off limits. I've been a cashier and yes, you can ignore him -- or at least his flirty comments.

He purposely tucked in his shirt right in front of me and looked @ me while smiing

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Originally Posted by Jojoisfly12

He purposely tucked in his shirt right in front of me and looked @ me while smiing

Then you turn away and get busy with counting bills and making sure they are in their proper slots in your register.

When you are married some day and are at home struggling with two kids, are you going to be happy for your husband who is at working flirting with cashiers?

You ignore him, if he flirts too much, ask him to stop, or ask him how his wife and kids are.

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Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck

you ignore him, if he flirts too much, ask him to stop, or ask him how his wife and kids are.

What if he doesn't realize he's doing it

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Originally Posted by Jojoisfly12

What if he doesn't realize he's doing it

Of course he knows he's doing it! Be a cashier.

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

Of course he knows hes doing it! Be a cashier.

I also do fries n he's been in the fry freezer with me and that freezer ain't very big

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Originally Posted by Jojoisfly12

I also do fries n he's been in the fry freezer with me and that freezer ain't very big

So you encourage him?

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

So you encourage him?

How would that be encouraging him most of the stuff in that freezer is heavy

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Originally Posted by Jojoisfly12

How would that be encouraging him most of the stuff in that freezer is heavy

So have someone else help you.
How old are you? And he?
Not that matters, just curious.
My guess is that you are young and you find this inappropriate attention flattering.
Don't be flattered if it weren't you it would be someone else.
If the question is how to stop it, that's easy as everyone else has already stated. Keep your attitude professional and aloof, and don't encourage it by playing into it.
He is playing with fire and you don't want to be one of the people getting burned.

He's 29 I'm 18 n I sort of flirted with him yesterday when he came in but I don't think he noticed

You have two choices. You either make sure you maintain a business like relationship or you report him to the HR department for sexual harassment. If he is making you feel uncomfortable, that is illegal.

Do you work for a large chain?

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Originally Posted by ScottGem

You have two choices. You either make sure you maintain a business like relationship or you report him to the HR department for sexual harassment. If he is making you feel uncomfortable, that is illegal.

Do you work for a large chain?

I work for Arbys n it doesn't bug me a lot only because I don't see him a lot

This is a link to an employee handbook from a large Arbys franchisee:

Arbys sexual harassment policy - Bing

Page 7 discusses workplace harassment. Does your franchise have a similar handbook? If so I would make a copy of the page(s) that deal with harassment and leave it in his locker or office anonymously.

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Originally Posted by ScottGem

This is a link to an employee handbook from a large Arbys franchisee:

Arbys sexual harassment policy - Bing

Page 7 discusses workplace harassment. Does your franchise have a similar handbook? If so I would make a copy of the page(s) that deal with harassment and leave it in his locker or office anonymously.

Idk I think we do

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Originally Posted by Jojoisfly12

He's 29 I'm 18 n I sorta flirted with him yesterday when he came in but I don't think he noticed

So maybe you are doing the flirting and interpreting his words and actions toward you as flirting back at you?

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Originally Posted by Jojoisfly12

Idk I think we do

You "think" you do? Such a handbook would have been required to be given to you when you were hired. Copies should be accessible to any employee.

Doesn't sound like a properly run franchise.

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Originally Posted by ScottGem

You "think" you do? Such a handbook would have been required to be given to you when you were hired. Copies should be accessible to any employee.

Doesn't sound like a properly run franchise.

I wasn't given anything I just got told that the only relationship is a friend ship but nothing else

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Originally Posted by Jojoisfly12

I wasn't given anything I just got told that the only relationship is a friend ship but nothin else

You were told that when you started working there? That's sort of odd. I wonder if they've had trouble with employee overstepping their bounds.

You need to acquire and read carefully an employee handbook, you should have been required to sign a form stating that you were given this handbook and have read and understood it. I've never worked in a facility that didn't provide a handbook and require acknowledgement before continuing the working relationship. You may have been signing so many things you don't remember signing it, I don't know.
It may be as has been mentioned -a poorly run franchise
In any event, pull the link up provided for you and read a little further after you read page 7, page 11 covers dating and fraternization.

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Originally Posted by LadySam

You need to acquire and read carefully an employee handbook, you should have been required to sign a form stating that you were given this handbook and have read and understood it. I've never worked in a facility that didn't provide a handbook and require acknowledgement before continuing the working relationship. You may have been signing so many things you don't remember signing it, I don't know.
It may be as has been mentioned -a poorly run franchise
In any event, pull the link up provided for you and read a little further after you read page 7, page 11 covers dating and fraternization.

That's prob what happened I was signing twenty thousand dif things

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Originally Posted by LadySam

In any event, pull the link up provided for you and read a little further after you read page 7, page 11 covers dating and fraternization.

I just wanted to note that the handbook I linked to is for a franchisee, not Arbys itself. It is possible, even probable, that it was patterned after one dictated for franchisees by Arby. So it may be similar to what the OP's franchisee provides.

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Originally Posted by Jojoisfly12

That's prob what happened I was signing twenty thousand dif things

Then it is probable you were given a copy that is with the other paperwork you received.

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Originally Posted by ScottGem

I just wanted to note that the handbook I linked to is for a franchisee, not Arbys itself. It is possible, even probable, that it was patterned after one dictated for franchisees by Arby. So it may be similar to what the OP's franchisee provides.

Then it is probable you were given a copy that is with the other paperwork you received.

But I didn't get paper to like take home n read over

Whatever your place of employment has or hasn't should be available to you simply for the asking.

The issue is, that YOU like him, and you want something more, and are dong things,

Heavy things in a freezer, guess what, get over it and lift them and move them. All of the other employees are expected to. Guess what, he is married, you are not suppose to be flirting with him.

Start behaving properly and most of these problems will go away