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Ok. I am sixteen. And yesterday morning I got a abortion. Please don't judge me. Anyway I was wondering what can I do? I mean like physically with my boyfriend and like exercise like? Please answer, I don't want to put my health at risk for doing something that I'm not supposed to do after a abortion. I had a surgical abortion. If that helps anyone to answer this question.
Well first, I would hope you learne3d a lesson from this. You should not be having sexual intercourse with anyone until you are physically, emotionally and financially ready to have a baby.
As for what activities you can engage in after the surgery, didn't the surgeon or docotor who performed the procedure give you a set of instructions? They are supposed to. If not, call the office and ask.
Well they did give me instructions, but I didn't listen. And I can't call them because they are closed. Anyway I just want to know what I can't do
I would take it easy for a week or two, you willl likely be spotting now and then but do not be alarmed, this is normal. I wouldn't recomment having sex for the next two week either as your body is very fertile at this moment. It is normal for your body to still feel the symptoms of pregnancy for up to six weeks, so that might keep you from feeling "normal". Try not to lift anything over 15 lbs over two weeks and make sure you take your antibiotics! Nothing strenuous...
Thank you cherriebomb. That really helped. Umm anything else?
I'm sorry to hear you had to go through that. Usually you would have been given information handouts that recommend waiting a couple of weeks before resuming intercourse. Do not use tampons until either any bleeding has stopped or if the doctor suggested waiting until you have a follow-up visit. You can exercise after a week or so, but take it easy on anything too strenuous. Listen to your body, and check with the doctor if you feel things are not healing as quickly as they should.
You are not to have sex or have anything in the vagina for the next 2-4 weeks. I would also like to note that unless you have birth control in place you should not be having sex as well.Quote:
Originally Posted by RachelandChris
It is depressing to note that your only concern through this is when can your boyfriend and you get active again. Have you sought out any counseling for the issues related to having an abortion?
Just wanted to add... obviously, as ScottGem mentioned... do be better prepared in the future. I know things happen that aren't planned, so be sure to do all that you can to decrease the odds. Some find it helpful to use two forms of birth control... the pill and condoms for example. Wish you well.
DoulaLC- Thank you so much. I think I got it.
No No No, I was just asking you guys. I don't want to be active like that again for a long time. I wanted to know everything that I couldn't do.Quote:
Originally Posted by Justwantfair
I think everyone said everything that needed to be said. I understand where you are. One thing I would suggest is talking to a counselor. It really helps. I know there must be a lot of built up sadness, anger, relief, lots of emotions. Talk to someone about it. Make sure to take any meds they've given you... and ibuprofen rocks!
Yes Yes, I was on birth control and ran out, that's probably how I got pregnant, and yes 95% of the time we do use condoms. But trust me I won't be doing anything active for a while.Quote:
Originally Posted by DoulaLC
Yeah, I will probably do that. I do have a lot of feelings built up insideQuote:
Originally Posted by ChihuahuaMomma
I apologize. Good luck to you and your recovery.Quote:
Originally Posted by RachelandChris
It's OK. I understand. Thank you.Quote:
Originally Posted by Justwantfair
There are solutions to running out of birth control. A lot of places you can order it online through planned parenthood, you can call it in to a pharmacy and have it waiting for you BEFORE you run out. You can get a few months at a time. I'm sure you've learned from this mistake. There's also a pill called Plan B that works as a late birth control in case you missed a pill or two and are worried.
Yeah, But where I live you can't get Plan B unless your 18 for over the counter, if your under 18 then you have to go to the doctor and get a prescription
Yes... So why wouldn't you be able to go to the doctor and get it? Would it be better to have a child or abortion?
Too scared to tell my parents. In the end my boyfriend told them *thank god* It would be better to have a child. I didn't want to get an abortion, I guess I got caught up in the moment
You can go to planned parenthood and get a prescription without your parents. If you didn't want an abortion, you shouldn't have done it. Don't let other people dictate your life. I think the best thing for you would be to talk to a counselor.
Yeah, at my school? NO way! Where can I?
Well I am surprised, but maybe I shouldn't be, but why isn't this information given out when you had the abortion?
What is the problem with talking to the counselors at your school? They would be a good option. What about talking to your parents, telling them you would like some counseling.
I am already accused of cutting myself at my school. Being accused for being pregnant won't helpQuote:
Originally Posted by Justwantfair
They didn't give a printed sheet? So you don't do anything strenuous until you can contact them.Quote:
Originally Posted by RachelandChris
That's a good question. What's wrong with the counselor at school? What about the one at the abortion clinic? You can talk to them when you go back for your check-up.
Who would know and accuse you of being pregnant? Who would tell anyone else, it's a confidential meeting to get together with your school counselor.Quote:
Originally Posted by RachelandChris
Yeah I can. Counselors creep me out sometimes though, and I have big problems with trusting people
Counselors are the best people to trust, there isn't a dependency, you don't see them or need to see them everyday in your life. You can spill all of your intimate secrets and they by law aren't allowed to tell anyone else anything you tell them in confidence, unless you are a danger to yourself or others.Quote:
Originally Posted by RachelandChris
They are there to listen and advise and see you through this difficult time in your life. It is just as liberating as spilling your guts on here except they are trained professionals.
Yeah. I might go see the counselor, I don't know yet.
Is there a Planned Parenthood or AIDS support network in your area? I think they will give condoms for free. Please, please don't put yourself through this again. Always use birth control until the time you really want a baby. Please do a computer search and see what options there are in your area. I would think that you shouldn't participate in any phys-ed classes for at least ten days. Can you make an excuse?
Most abortion clinics can give you a note from physical activity from school and/or work and the name isn't on the sheet, just the doctor.
What city and state do you live in?
I live in Sacramento, CaliforniaQuote:
Originally Posted by ChihuahuaMomma
Really? I didn't know that I could get a note
Oh you can absolutely get a note.
Also, here is a link to a Planned Parenthood in your area. Search Results: sacramento (site:plannedparenthood.org )
Oh. Thank you so much :]Quote:
Originally Posted by ChihuahuaMomma
You're welcome. Please be smarter from now on. You're now armed with experience on what happens if you don't and information for wiser choices. ALSO, you have the wonderful big-hearted folks of AMHD! Good luck, sweetie.
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