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Losing time when drunk.

I've been getting drunk a lot in the past 2 weeks... its no good. After getting drunk I found out things that people said to me that I don't remember... I did things and don't have a clue about it. Luckily I am around safe people and I've been making good choices when it comes to guys. The thing is I'm really worried about this. I always used to drink this often and always have the same amount to get drunk.. I don't understand why all of a sudden I am forgetting things that happened at the very end of the night. The beginning and middle are all good its just the end. Is something wrong w. me? Y am I all of a sudden losing time when I'm drunk? Also I have been getting very red in the fast when drunk and when coming out of the shower. This is all strange and new to me.odd things are happening.

Anybody have any thoughts or answers!

If you do... thanksssssssss ;)

I guess you're an alcoholic who is having blackouts.

That is natural as you age and it only gets worse. They say every time you drink you kill so many brain cells, eventually more cells effected the more you start noticing it.
Know... how alcohol works

Some of my friends and neighbors that are alcoholic and in their 40's have so much brain damage they constantly ask me the same question over and over. I can be driving them to the grocery store a few minutes away and they ask at least 6 times, "Where are we going again?"

I think your body may be sending you a message saying that it is time to stop drinking. If you are having blackouts, it is time to quit. It's good that you party with safe people, but you have to think about your health in addition to your safetly. Even if you could handle it in the past, your body can't take it now.

I would also recommend that you ask your doctor about the flushed face. It could be a warning sign of another problem.

Alcohol changes the body. It makes cells less permeable. I don't remember all of it. Over time, your body is adapting to your alcohol intake. It is a poison, especially for alcoholics.

When "normies" drink, their body slowly changes the alcohol to acetaldehyde, a toxic by-product which is then made into something else that the body can eliminate. Acetaldehyde is what floats around in the blood and gives you a hangover, nausea and all that fun stuff.

In the body of an alcoholic, alcohol is turned into acetaldehyde very, very fast. They can drink faster and more than a normie, and have lots of fun. But the body adapts to being poisoned. Over time, the cells, in their attempt to keep alcohol out begin to keep out nutrients... That's all I remember about that.

Not remembering things at the end of the evening is a physical reaction to long term intake. Getting a red face can be alcohol related too. Your body is no longer able to handle the amounts it used to. Although you continue to drink the same amount, it has become too much. You are poisoning yourself. Alcohol is socially acceptable and legal. That doesn't mean that it is not poisonous.

Go to AA. Read their free pamphlets and learn about it. Quitting drinking may mean changing some of your friends and certain lifestyle alterations. That stuff is killing you! I've been there. I am not judging you one bit. Alcohol lies to you, tells you that you do not have a problem with it. That is addiction.

Darlin, if you know that you have a problem with blacking out when you drink too much, why would you want to drink?

Worse, what if someone took advantage of you while you were drunk and you "blacked out" and can't remember? My mind is going over all kinds of worst-case-scenarios here... none of them are pretty pictures.

Honey, you need to seriously back off the drink. Partying can be fun without the drink. Social drinking can be fun - and it can also be controlled.

My advice to you is take a step back from drinking so much... its not going to hurt you by doing so... but it seriously could hurt you if you continue blacking out from so much liquor.

Okk thanks... I am going to try this: I mean I am a college kid. I'm always partying... any day of the week. It will be way hard to completely stop. But maybe I can limit it to only drinking on weekends and a lot less of it when I do drink. This may be a good place for me to start. The more I think of it the more I am noticing a problem here. Nights when I don't drink (rare) I can't go to sleep... my heart is racing. This is my 3rd yr of college my 1st drink was freshman yr. its been 3 yrs of drinking. I do not drink in the summer and over breaks when I go home. That's a good thing. I do not think I am an alcoholic but I am def on my way there. Thanks for everything any more advice or support it welcomed!

The first step is recognizing the problem. The hard part is going to be when you actually put it into practice. But you can do it! :)

Good luck to you, justme005. I hope that you are successful in "stepping back"!

Your lucky you still have a young strong body right now, as the effects of alcohol will get worse, and as you build resistance, you will drink more. Now you are having blackouts, that will get worse, until you develop "wet brain" from alcoholism (Google this). Young people think they can drink, and party, but the long term consequences, are devastating. Cutting back is not enough, quitting is the answer.

Here is a website that list possible causes for the 'red face'. Now, some of these are very serious, so don't freak out when you read it, lol. In your case, it is most likely caused from the drinking.

Red face - Multiple Symptom Checker - WrongDiagnosis.com

There is a section on there about alcohol. I think it's really good that you are cutting back. When you do drink, make sure to drink a glass of water for every alcoholic drink. It will help you drink less and you will stay hydrated.

justme005 agrees: what kind of problem??

Just to name two brain damage and kills vitamin B 1 and other vitamins and minerals and enzymes.

Alcohol-related Neurological Disease Information on Healthline

Drunkorexia: Health Danger For Women, Young Women Court Danger By Substituting Alcohol Calories For Food Calories - The ShowBuzz

Hey justme,

I'm sorry to tell you this but no one becomes an alcoholic. We are born that way and it is triggered by ingestion. If you are having trouble sleeping if you aren't drinking before bed? Now is not the time to slow down your drinking. If you want a life, quit. Because it gets worse.

Picture yourself 40 years old. Sleeping rarely happens, you can only pass out. Your face is puffy and you look sick. Your eyes and face are various shades of red all the time. When you're awake, you're either drinking or driving drunk to the store to get some. You can't drink at work so there you experience the acetaldehyde poisoning. You are dizzy, can't think, jumpy and keep running to the little girls room to make yourself throw up, so you can act like you are working. Your husband and kids are in the way of your drinking. Everyone and everything is getting in the way, all you want to do is stay drunk.

Quit now, and you will have a life. Because you aren't that bad... yet.

For every ounce of liquor consumed, 7,000 brain cells die.

you r scaring me. Maybe this why I feel dizzy and like throwing up after eating and just randomly. This is worse than I thought... :(

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ya'll r scaring me. maybe this why i feel dizzy and like throwing up after eating and just randomly. this is worse than i thought......... :(

Welcome to the real world, where fun can be very costly. It is scary, so do something for yourself to change it.

It's not uncommon to have memory lapses when you've been under the influence of alcohol. Also, reddened skin is a common side effect of alcohol use, especially when done to excess. It sounds like you may have a problem with alcohol and need to either cut back or stop altogether. Counseling can help in this regard. Don't just brush it off as excessive alcohol consumption can have drastic physical and emotional consequences.

Tonight is my last night drinking until next weekend. Its going to be a rough week, I'm feel so ty and shaky and pukey... but in the long run ill be better off I think... lol

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tonite is my last nite drinking until next weekend. its gunna be a rough week, im feel so ty and shaky and pukey ... but in the long run ill be better off i think.... lol

That really sounds like alcoholic talk. Today is my last day... until tomorrow comes and there is a reason to celebrate or a very stressful day. Then that will be their last day.

You either quit or you don't.

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until next weekend

No, not until "next weekend." Stop. Now. Go to A.A.

Let me see, you drink to the point of being drunk to start with. And then drinking to the point of not knowing what is going on,

Yes here is a problem, you are a drunk

I think you need to quit, not just cut back. You are an alcoholic, honey. I'm sorry to have to say it, but it's true. If you can't quit for even one week, there is a problem there. Alcoholics can't drink. Period. Your body is damaged enough already. Can you imagine having fun without alcohol? Honey, lots of people fall into alcoholism in college.

My brother in law started drinking on weekends in college, just like you. Then he started to associate fun with alcohol. If there wasn't booze, he wasn't having fun. Now, he drinks at least 15 beers a day, has no social life, no friends, no girlfriend. He is staying with us right now because he was evicted. He spent all his money on beer. This morning we found him in the living room drooling on himself with a beer still clenched in his hand. His teeth are rotted out, he's bald, he used to be so smart and now he acts like an idiot. He has ulcers, insomnia, anger problems, and he's only 25 years old. Please don't end up like him. He lost his job for drinking at work.

Go to AA. If you don't have the willpower to resist drinking, check yourself into rehab. Hang out with people who don't drink. You are the only one who can save your life here. Please get help for yourself.

I see... I don't know why I feel like puking at random... like all of a sudden it in hits me... after I eat I want to puke! Its an awful feeling.

also is blood in your bowel movement mean something? Lol it must. I think I saw a small tad today :0

maybe I should talk to someone at my school about this...

we r about to drink now... drinking games and whatnot. I promise this is the last day. U all can hold me to it. Ima try and go a week w.o it.

oh dear...

Blood in your bowel movement can be caused by an ulcer. Ulcers can be caused by drinking. Ulcers, if left untreated can become very serious and lead to hospitalization.

Oh, have fun getting drunk again.

Blood in the bowel movement is VERY serious. Was it bright red or dark? I don't get it. You are getting ready to play drinking games,but you come on this site first to talk about alcoholism? You have to get in rehab. My best friend is a nurse in ICU. They had a 23 year old woman die of liver failure this week. She was an alcoholic.

Alcoholics always say "This is the last time". It's like me when I was trying to quit smoking. I'd say "Oh, I'll only smoke when I'm out with my friends on the weekend" That never happened. I had to quit for good period. I was addicted to it. I still am. I would love to be smoking a cig right now. But I won't. Because if I did, I would go back to a pack a day in a second. I know that's not the same as alcohol, but I was able to overcome it with counseling and willpower.
There are people who can drink socially and people who can't. Tell your friends about your insomnia, puking, red face, and anal bleeding. Tell them that is why you aren't going to be drinking tonight.

I'm not trying to sound harsh, hon. I'm just worried about you. I think talking to a counselor at your school is a very good idea.

You are killing yourself with every drink, even after all the symptoms have hit you in the eyes and A$$. How stupid is that? That's what drunks do though.

I'm sorryy... :(... I am sooo sad rite now... I'm depressed... I'm lonely.. I'm a druink... its badd... I need help.. I just can't do it on my own. I can't do this. I'm so scared. Someone help. Ahh... :,(

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i see....i dont know why i feel like puking at random... like all of a sudden it in hits me... after i eat i wanna puke! its an awful feeling.

also is blood in ur bowel movement mean something? lol it must. i think i saw a small tad today :0

maybe i should talk to someone at my school about this...

we r about to drink now... drinking games and whatnot. i promise this is the last day. u all can hold me to it. ima try and go a week w.o it.

oh dear...

Excessive alcohol consumption irritates your digestive and urinary tracts. Blood in the stool can be serious ; hemorrhoids, ulcers, cancer or simple irritation. Stomach irritation, to the point of vomiting, is common as well. See a doctor to address the symptoms you've been experiencing and also for consultation on how to successfully stop drinking. Alcoholism is due to a chemical imbalance and it is triggered by alcohol consumption. The only way to successfully treat alcoholism is no booze whatsoever.

Gotcha... its all smooth sailing from here. Last night was my last. Today equals a fresh start. I don't want to live the life of an alcoholic. I don't want my hands to shake because I need some booze. I don't want to feel dizzy and nervous all day. Its time for change and there is no day like the present. I shall keep everyone posted on my experience at the AA meeting and if I break my promise of no drinking... I will be veryyy upset!

If anyone is still reading this...

I am having sleeping problems. I did not dirnk last night and I didn't feel shaky or anything (surprisingly) but I just could not sleep. This has been happening so much lately.. even after a night of drinking... I pass out and wake up in the early am and cannot fall bak asleep! What is going on here. No caffeine in me either...

UGHHH!

Darlin, your body is going through withdrawal. You've gotten used to your alcohol intake and it is craving it. This is a normal thing for someone who is going cold turkey. Keep it up and DON'T drink again!

I commend you for doing this. It is very difficult... but you are going to get through it! You're stronger than this addiction...

You may consider talking to the counselor at your college about these symptoms, your determination to quit drinking, and the affect that its having on your life and personality. Its just a thought... maybe she can help you better than we can on this forum.

But please keep us up to date. We're all rooting for you! :)

I'm really glad to hear that you are quitting and going to AA. It will take a while for your body to get used to not having the alcohol. If the withdrawal symptoms get really bad, go to the doctor and explain what is going on. They may be able to help.

I agree talking to the counselor about this is a good idea too.

I know you can do it! It'll be rough, but I know you can get through it! Keep being strong! :)

The reason you wake up a lot is that the alcohol is a depressant and has wrecked havoc with your body. It has chemically altered your brain as well. You need to start taking vitamins and minerals that your body has been depleted of. I sent you a private message.

Thank you all for being so supportive! The only person I can think of talking to at my school is one of my 2 advisors... they are both music therapists (which is my major). The only thing is... I don't know if I should tell them about this since I am always in contact with them. They teach some of my classes and whatnot. So this may not be a good idea? But he already knows me and stuff and I trust him/them. We'll see if things get bad enough that I rreally need someone.

Day 2 in progress w. no drinking. Oh how exciting :)

Is there a counseling center at your college? If there is a campus health center, ask them about counseling. Lots of time it is free or at a reduced rate for students!

I am proud of you! Take it one day at a time. You can do this! :)

I don't know if there is.. never really looked into... maybe ill search around... I don't want people to know I'm going so... I got to be sneaky... haha

Be sneaky all you want... but Darlin... you are going to have to realize that people are going to know you're not drinking anymore. You're going to get hit BIG TIME with peer pressure to drink again... "Aww... just one! One won't hurt!" Be ready for it. Have an answer ready for when you're tempted to slip back into the habit.

Better yet... don't put yourself in the situation where you will be tempted to drink... at least until you get a handle on the addictions.

Seriously.

You can be sneaky about going to a counselor, but people are going to know that you've quit. But Hon, you're the better person. You're strong enough to do this.

Take care, justme. We're all rooting for you.

My God, Its called being drunk! It effects people differently! It messes with your brain! I get drunk quite also and I enjoy it! Most of the time Imyself and my partner can't remember what pub we went to last ot how we got home!

Some people get p***ed and fall around the place... You don't ask what it wrong with them do you... You know! Same should go for memory lapses! All part of the drunken rollercoster!

Day 3 soberrrr! Holllllerrrr :) I feel so good now! AA tomorrow night at 730!

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day 3 soberrrr! holllllerrrr :) i feel so good now! AA tomorrow nite at 730!

YOU DA BOMB, GIRL!!

Keep it up!! :D

Hey folks...

Last night I barely slept. I went to bed at 1:30... tossed and turned till about 5:30am dozed off bit... woke up... fell bak asleep and had to be up for class by 9:30. So I am very tired at this point... on top of everything I got my period. Lol. Now I'm even more tired. Today sucks. Hopefully tonight will be better...