Ask Me Help Desk - Losing time when drunk.

I see 12 important Steps in your future But the best part is it begins with only one
I hope you take it. Good luck

I am losing my grip on everything. My head is so clouded. This is my last beer. I swear... ull see

I'm awake and watching you.

I wish u were. Lol

I would adopt you.

Hahahahaha. That's funny.

Well, sweetiepie, it's nearly 1:30 here and I must have some tea and cinnamon toast before I go to bed. Sleep well. I will be standing guard on your shoulder. If you feel something jumping up and down there and hear some muffled yelling not to drink, it will be me.

Thank u... that's very sweet of u. lol... its 230 here by the way :) gnite'

How you doing this morning, Darlin?

Just me,
Please go back to the meetings at AA Find a sponsor They will help you get through this One day at a time. If you slip and you will they will understand. They will love you just as you are and get you through this. One day you will look back and say
How stupid was that.
If you feel like you do not like the meeting you went to go to a different one they have plenty all over the place.. Find one that you can relate to.
Right now you need 90 days 90 meetings.

I believe that you can do it!!

Now you have to believe in yourself.

I am OK today... just a little hungover.. but like I said I'm starting today. I have hw to do and research to do and practicing that must get done... I don't have time to be drinking.. that's how I'm looking at it... I feel like I am slipping away from myself so I need to pull it togther... as far as AA... eh I don't know.. I will look for a counsler at my school today. I'm off to play some pickleball

Thanks for everyone posting and being so supportive.. it means a lot.

You have an e-support network here in all of us. Now you just need a support network that can physically be in the same room as you. But, even when you get one, we'll all still be here.

Just a click away. :)

Thanks so much. I'm losing it. I'm going home this weekend though so I won't be able to drink. Which is good. And I'm not drinking tonight... maybe tomorrow though. I just can't say NO. I know I should and its in the bak of my mind but I just can't pull myself together to not go out w. my friends. And I know no one can help me but myself but I can't do it. Lol I go 5 days w.o drinking to 5 days of drinking... now I'm stopping again... ughhh. So beatt. OK well thanks for listening to me vent.

Darlin, those are not your friends. Ever heard that saying, "Friends don't let friends drink and drive?" Well, take it a step further, "Friends don't let friends drink when they're trying to quit!"

Its going to be infinitely easier to quit if you don't hang out with those friends. I'm not saying its going to be easy on any level, but "easier" if you aren't under their influence!

I just replied to another thread on here about friends... its not relative to your situation at all, but take a look at how life1973happened describes friends. If nothing else, some fun reading for your "extra time" :)

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...im-180668.html

Have a wonderful time at home... and use this time to maybe talk to family about your problem... I know, I know. You're too embarrassed... Darlin... You're going to have to suck it up and be a little embarrassed if you're going to quit this thing.

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Originally Posted by simoneaugie

Alcohol changes the body. It makes cells less permeable. I don't remember all of it. Over time, your body is adapting to your alcohol intake. It is a poison, especially for alcoholics.

When "normies" drink, their body slowly changes the alcohol to acetaldehyde, a toxic by-product which is then made into something else that the body can eliminate. Acetaldehyde is what floats around in the blood and gives you a hangover, nausea and all that fun stuff.

In the body of an alcoholic, alcohol is turned into acetaldehyde very, very fast. They can drink faster and more than a normie, and have lots of fun. But the body adapts to being poisoned. Over time, the cells, in their attempt to keep alcohol out begin to keep out nutrients...That's all I remember about that.

Not remembering things at the end of the evening is a physical reaction to long term intake. Getting a red face can be alcohol related too. Your body is no longer able to handle the amounts it used to. Although you continue to drink the same amount, it has become too much. You are poisoning yourself. Alcohol is socially acceptable and legal. That doesn't mean that it is not poisonous.

Go to AA. Read their free pamphlets and learn about it. Quitting drinking may mean changing some of your friends and certain lifestyle alterations. That stuff is killing you! I've been there. I am not judging you one bit. Alcohol lies to you, tells you that you do not have a problem with it. That is addiction.

This is great. You hit the nail on the head. It would be better for you to stop drinking. AA Is a good place to start. The first steep it to admit it. The rest is kosher

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Originally Posted by HistorianChick

Its going to be infinitely easier to quit if you don't hang out with those friends. I'm not saying its going to be easy on any level, but "easier" if you aren't under their influence!

This is so very true!! I find, at school, that if I hang with the crowd in my class that doesn't smoke, then I don't crave a cigarette. Yet, on breaks from class (my classes range from 2 three hour classes a week and one 12 hour class a week), if I go out with the smokers, I start craving a cigarette and cave in and smoke. Staying in the classroom with the non-smokers is a great way to keep my mind occupied from my addiction.

Now, giving up alcohol is quite the same way. You need to distance yourself from the drinkers and hang out with the non-drinkers. Those non-drinkers (in my case non-smokers) can possibly be all the support system you need. I know they are for me.

Ohh boyy... so I'm home now and I can't sleep because I need a drink... I'm so wide awake its retarded. I just want some of my dads wine... I think I'm going to go get some. Just a little... my heart is going too fastttttt :(

Hold it right there just me! You need to go to a meeting. You have admitted several times that you are powerless over alcohol. You are the only one who can do this. If I was there I would put you in a car and take you too a meeting. That heart is going to get worse.

I want you to look on line and call a hotline for AA right now Talk to someone who knows where you been and can talk you out of this. What do you have to lose here. Or Are you not ready to give up this way of life??

My heart is OK now... I'm buzzed. Ha. I'm on my second talll glass... and I'm getting a gut. Ewwww. I tried looking for a sponsor oline the other day, but nothing came up! I don't know what to type in... I feel like I am not ready to give up this way of life, but I feel like I realllly have too for my health! I keep forgetting things and losing time when drunk... and evem when I'm not I still forget . I'm not telling my parents about this. They will kill me and put me in rehab. No in way.

I am soooooooooo goooood rite now :)

Yes but you won't be later... Just look up AA and it will pull up a hot line
Come on take yourself serious and get some help
Or is it too much fun too forget things and puke your guts out and wreck your car and ruin your brain cells

I guess you ned to stay out there a little longer Good luck

No no no... I don't need to stay. I can do it! Ahhhhhhhhh

Yes, you need to tell your parents about this... they love you and can help.

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Originally Posted by justme005

i am soooooooooo goooood rite now :)

Of course you do. A good nights sleep, and some food does wonders, and can easily erase those memories of yelling for "Earl" in the toilet bowl. A temporary reprieve, until you make smart decisive changes.:rolleyes:

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Comments on this postCheshire2008 agrees: The funny thing about this situation with Alchoholics is you can tell them I have a cure for you problem but you must stop drinking they always negotiate with about when it is convient Now is never a good time

How can I give a greenie, to a greenie?? This is such a profound statement. So indicative to how the disease of alcoholism, warps your thinking, and plays tricks on your mind.

Greenie to a greenie? Hmm I don't get it.. haha

When someone agrees with you they rate your post. This is called a greenie and goes toward your reputation for all to see. If I could have I would give the greenie I received, a greenie, Meaning I agree with her agreement. Ta dahhhh!!

Ohhhh I Seeeee :)

Thank you Talaniman I will revel in the honor of my greenie ; )
However I just have this vast knowledge from being around people who love to kill themselves slowly with a "Drug of their choice" in this case alcohol So as a result I went to many mettings with people who love to only say their first name. All I can say is they are the best friends I 've ever had and I never knew their last name : )
As for you just me you think this is the first time I have heard your story No
Your cure rests between 4 walls called AA believe me they only want you if your ready.
I love that people who drink in excess don't worry about people seeing them intoxicated
But worry that people will see them taking steps to better themselves by getting help and going to AA.

After reading your posts I don't see it. I really wish you were.

By The way The actual full quote is... Funny thing you can walk in a Cancer ward and say I have a cure and everyone would take it make the change and live.( Irony there is no cure)
But you walk in a room full of Alcoholics and say I have a cure ( By the way that works) and they say Oh now is not a good time can I start that after the holidays ! It's uncanny and unbelivable. Lol

Justme - "only drinking on the weekends" is a step, yes, but it's not a committment. The only way you are going to break this addiction and conquer alcoholism is to make a commitment to stop. No amount of "baby steps" are going to get you there... only a real, true, honest commitment.

Kind of like the new Marine ad campaign, "We don't take applications, we only take committments."

Don't put in your application to stop drinking, committ to DO IT.

Wow... OK I see... thanks everyone!

Just wondering what it would take for you to seriously commit to the change? Rape, series of bad relationships, or something else? Whatever it is, I'm sure it can be arranged... not necessarily with your approval, but never the less...

I need help. Imwated and high, I dubbo 3hqt to do... smebody help me... I hooked up w.womeone I dident want too. Omg... I can't do this I canr... I need someone.. my adivors are maybe?

Darling, we have given you the tools to bury this habit but we can't make you use them.

You MUST get help. AA is a necessity for you. You can't care how "uncomfortable" it makes you, you must go. This is bigger than your adviser. Go to AA.

You put yourself in a dangerous situation "hooking up with someone you didn't want to."

This is serious. Get help.

Just me I really want you to think on this. Go back and read your own posts.
The right step is
A "The thing is im really worried about this."
b. I did things and don't have a clue about it.
C Luckily I am around safe people
D I've been making good choices when it comes to guys.
I always used to drink this often and always have the same amount to get drunk.. I don't understand why all of a sudden

You are young in your addiction You are in school This is suppose to be the best time in your life. You have some much to look forward too.
Yes you can try to manage your drinking but I really think the drinking is managing you!
You are dealing with something stronger then yourself
Drinking is cunning baffling and powerful
Why the resistance to AA go to a few meetings just sit and listen I promise you you will hear stories that will sound familiar. You will find you are not alone. They do have AA by computer ( on Line) But it really is the feeling of communion with people and the connection that matters. Give it a shot I bet it will change your life . The choice is yours. What do you have to loose? Some groups have younger people but it is the old timers who have a lot to share. Keep looking to you have a group you feel connected with. Then you can pick a sponsor That is someone you can speak with everday who understands how you feel and will help you through this. My thoughts are with you.

Thank u all. I am very upset today :(

What are you going to do about being upset? If you're stewing in yout own juices, you probably don't need to marinate any further. So are you angry enough to do something about it?

I'm not drinking tonight. My head is spinning.

Round and round it goes, where it stops, nobody knows...

Fun fun fun... when you're tired of all the excitement you are bringing into your life, and are ready to take some serious positive steps toward a more rational approach, remember the advice you've been offered. No one is going to force you to do the walk. You got to take the steps yourself... but others will be willing to support you.

Continuing with the same behaviors but expecting to get different results is the definition of insanity.

Time to get off the merry go round... for your own sanity.