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Originally Posted by ttal_87

yeah but i want a big family there are alot of familys out that dnt have money and keep getting pregnant and i c them getting help for it y can't i?

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The money is there for those who truly need it, when they fall on difficult times, for temporary support. It is not to be used as a back up plan or to supplement your income. Just because something can be used, doesn't mean it is right to use it. It depends on the situation and circumstances.
If your husband has a good job, makes good money, and you have insurance, then affording another child shouldn't be an issue.

If your doctor isn't willing to help you with becoming pregnant until you look into your health concerns, then it would be wise to deal with those first. Above all else, you want to be in the best health you can be before you become pregnant again so that you can be doing all that you can to insure a healthy pregnancy and baby.

For now, start putting some money aside until you have enough to cover your co-payments for the specialists that you need to see. Make some phone calls and find out roughly what you will be looking at cost wise so you will know what you need to stash away. Insurance will pick up much of the costs and you can set up a payment plan to pay off your portion. Then you can focus all of your attention on getting pregnant again.

Well thanks for understanding, I really preciated but I will look forward into the cost of getting pregnant and the bills I know its going to be expensive but we want another child and right now I just took a pregnancy test and it said it was negative but I'm 3 days late on my period so I'm just going to have to c my doctor again and see what they can do. But thank you for your support on answering my questions if you can help me by ansewing my questions I will appricate it cause I know that your job is very innportant to you and I respect that but all I ask is that you can help me is that a lot to ask .

No, it's not asking a lot, but we have given you suggestions and you say you aren't in a position right now (money to see these other doctors) to act on those suggestions, so there isn't much more that can be offered.

It could very well be the pancreatitis is what is keeping you from conceiving as this plays a role in several of your hormones. You may become pregnant even without their help, you may not.

Until you are able to see to having your condition addressed, try to have sex every other day throughout your cycle, watch for changes in your cervical mucus that may mean your body is preparing to ovulate, maybe try temping and charting or using ovulation predictor kits for a few months to see if you notice a pattern, get some regular exercise and eat well.. taking a good multivitamin if need be (partner should do these things as well), but these are about all you can do for now until your doctors are willing to do more. You may even consider seeing another doctor to get another opinion.

Three days late on a period is not unusual, your period may still show up, if not, try another test in about a week and see what results you get. Good luck!

Thank you for the help.

J-9

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