My husband got an invitation from a cousin in California who is getting Married in September. The wedding is to be a 4pm wedding outdoors with an outdoor reception to follow. The only suggestion about attire was that ladies wear flats and not heals as the ground is fairly soft.

What would be appropriate for my husband and I to wear (we are in our mid/late 30's) and my 11 year old daughter. There is also a Rehearsal dinner the day before.

I and my daughter may not go however because it is an out of state wedding and finances are so tight yet I would still like to know what would be appropriate wear should we be able to attend. I know some about what is proper and not but this is such a strange time that I'm not sure if this is something that a more formal attire is called for or not. I would like to know fairly soon so that should we be able to go that I know what I need to purchase to wear for my daughter and I and maybe even my husband; especially if his suit does not fit him any longer.

Sincerely,

Completely Frustratedathusband in Texas pondering going to Cali for 3 day's in Sept.

A simple dress would be appropriate, maybe a sun dress, and flats for the two girls, I would put some kind of simple cardigan over top maybe... and as for your husband, a pair of dockers and a collared shirt. I have even seen golf shirts pass...

For your husband wearing a suit to a wedding is always "safe." My daughter was married last year at a 4:30 PM ceremony, and I would say the vast majority of men wore suits. This was in NJ - perhaps on the left coast a sport coat and tie would be acceptable (especially since the reception is outdoors).

Hubby can wear a suit or at least a long sleeved shirt with dress pants and a tie.
You and daughter could wear simple dresses or pant suits. The only thing to avoid would be wearing a long white gown. ;) For the girls, a shawl or light sweater might be good to take in case the weather is questionable.