Originally Posted by
this8384
I suppose it all comes down to whether or not a)the biological father terminated his rights and b)your fiance adopted the girl.
I have to agree with Judy about "being stuck" with a child. I refer to my step-children as my children, because that's what they are. This girl is 13 years old and in an awkward situation; this girl has already been passed from one father to another, and now it's happening again. You may as well tattoo "You're not wanted here" on your forehead, just so she can't miss it. He's been a father to this girl for 6 years and quite frankly, I think it's crummy of him to tell her mother to chase after the "real" dad for support.
I'm still struggling with the "separated for 2 years, divorce is finally here thanks to her." You initially imply that she wants the divorce, then imply that she's the reason the divorce hasn't happened. Either way, it's irrelevant. Had your fiance wanted a divorce, he could have gone and filed 2 years ago.