Ask Me Help Desk - A dress that I don't like, but it's my sisters wedding...

A dress that I don't like, but it's my sisters wedding...

My sister is having a wedding, we're veeeerrrrry close and we have similar styles, we look just alike (I'm a quadruplet), and so, I'm paying for her wedding. Everything. Including her dress, and all of the bridesmaids dresses. But... My sister is a tiny bit more... Showy... So her wedding dress is a form-fitting high-low mermaid, with a diving neckline that shows her belly-button. I'm paying $11,000 for this dress... But I don't like it. Should I say something?

P.S I really hope that I'm not offending anyone who likes the dress.

It's her wedding and you agree. If money isn't the issue then you have to respect her style. Maybe get her to try it on before its paid for and get a photo of her wearing it. Sometimes that can make a difference.

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Originally Posted by N0help4u

It's her wedding and you agree. If money isn't the issue then you have to respect her style. Maybe get her to try it on before its paid for and get a photo of her wearing it. Sometimes that can make a difference.

Okay, I won't say a word

$11,000 for a wedding dress? Mine cost $70. Hmmm.

When you have a million dollar budget $11, is like $1,000.

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Originally Posted by N0help4u

When you have a million dollar budget $11, is like $1,000.

Yeah. I saw the million dollar budget comment after I had posted.

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Originally Posted by N0help4u

When you have a million dollar budget $11, is like $1,000.

Oh. Hahahha you guys must to have seen my other post. Help me out on that one too please! Also, my sister is... A beautiful person who loves to take lead in situations and share her opinion. I wouldn't want to upset her. So I hope I'm doing the right thing and I thank you so much for your advice.

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Oh. Hahahha you guys must to have seen my other post. Help me out on that one too please! Also, my sister is... A beautiful person who loves to take lead in situations and share her opinion. I wouldn't want to upset her. So I hope I'm doing the right thing and I thank you so much for your advice.

If there is a million-collar budget, why are you the wedding planner? Have you ever done this before?

I think she wants to do something special and get the experience

First, these should be combined. I get suspicious when 2 threads contain different info.

Second, the OP is a want to be writer. I'm not sure this isn't part of background for her latest... whatever.

Third, spidey senses.

Fourth, hahaha - ?

Fifth, didn't like the info on post #1. Now we have post #2.

"Yeah. I saw the million dollar budget comment after I had posted."

Right - million dollars for the wedding in a "mansion" (a direct quote) but no money for a planner and the dress 2 years in advance. Apparently styles and fashions in whatever part of the World this is do not change.

And the guests at the million dollar wedding are, I believe, going to be quite surprised by actual event because, well, they will be expecting a million dollar wedding with class.

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Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

"Yeah. I saw the million dollar budget comment after I had posted."

Right - million dollars for the wedding in a "mansion" (a direct quote) but no money for a planner and the dress 2 years in advance. Apparently styles and fashions in whatever part of the World this is do not change.

And the guests at the million dollar wedding are, I believe, going to be quite surprised by actual event because, well, they will be expecting a million dollar wedding with class.

And the sisters are part of quadruplets. Sounds like a storyline.

Without a doubt - and based on this the OP (and the looking for a prom dress thread) is most definitely not an adult. "Hahaha! It did strike me as bizarre and so I hadnt planned on answering it but now that I know why you're asking it, I'm happy to tell you that I am an adult. Teehee!"

More hahaha, now teehee.

Does anyone else get as aggravated as I get when someone comes on AMHD and - how do I put this - lies about a situation, takes up time and energy?

I feel betrayed - and what does OP say to my colleague, Nohelp, who posted photos, looked up designs, DOES plan receptions, thought this was all for real. Trust OP is highly amused that she was able to pull this off. https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/weddin...ml#post3522277

If she had simply asked about a storyline, characters, a million dollar wedding, people would have jumped to help her.

Now she's a troll (in my eyes).

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Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

First, these should be combined. I get suspicious when 2 threads contain different info.

Second, the OP is a want to be writer. I'm not sure this isn't part of background for her latest ... whatever.

Third, spidey senses.

Fourth, hahaha - ?

Fifth, didn't like the info on post #1. Now we have post #2.

Wait- are you questioning the truth of my threads? I mean if you are, Oh well because I have no interest in arguing with you (not that I'm saying that I think that you just would want to do that) but I just wanted to be clear.

A wedding dress with a plunging neckline all the way to her bellybutton! Wow, yes, classy!

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Wait- are you questioning the truth of my threads? I mean if you are, Oh well because I have no intrest in arguing with you (not that I'm saying that I think that you just would want to do that) but I just wanted to be clear.

Well why did you start a new post when you already have a thread about this ummm wedding.

To be quite honest, I am doubtful because anyone with this much money to throw around on a wedding would be consulting a wedding planner not a help desk forum of strangers!

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Originally Posted by tickle

Well why did you start a new post when you already have a thread about this ummm wedding.

To be quite honest, I am doubtful because anyone with this much money to throw around on a wedding would be consulting a wedding planner not a help desk forum of strangers!

Wait! This intrigue is better then my newspaper this morning!

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Wait! This intrigue is better then my newspaper this morning!

I reread her older threads and surmise she is still in her teens (and wants to be a writer).

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I reread her older threads and surmise she is still in her teens (and wants to be a writer).

Oh. Yes, the wannabe syndrome.

"Wait- are you questioning the truth of my threads? I mean if you are, Oh well because I have no intrest in arguing with you (not that I'm saying that I think that you just would want to do that) but I just wanted to be clear."

I thought I was clear - yes, I'm questioning the truth of your threads concerning the wedding. I'm also concerning your "I'm an adult" statement - and just about everything else you've said

Is that clear to you?

I'm not arguing with you. I'm just saying honesty is not your strong suit - again, of course, in my opinion.

If your millionaire boyfriend is willing to pay for your triplet redheaded sister's wedding, so be it.

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Originally Posted by tickle

Well why did you start a new post when you already have a thread about this ummm wedding.

To be quite honest, I am doubtful because anyone with this much money to throw around on a wedding would be consulting a wedding planner not a help desk forum of strangers!

I did it out of kindness. I didn't have to pay for anything-- I just love my sister and I WANT to help her myself.

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I reread her older threads and surmise she is still in her teens (and wants to be a writer).

I'm a young adult.

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Originally Posted by SmileyRedhead

I'm a young adult.

How old?

I hope you liies the pics I put on your other post. Let me know if you want more ideas

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Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

"Wait- are you questioning the truth of my threads? I mean if you are, Oh well because I have no intrest in arguing with you (not that I'm saying that I think that you just would want to do that) but I just wanted to be clear."

I thought I was clear - yes, I'm questioning the truth of your threads concerning the wedding. I'm also concerning your "I'm an adult" statement - and just about everything else you've said

Is that clear to you?

I'm not arguing with you. I'm just saying honesty is not your strong suit - again, of course, in my opinion.

If your millionaire boyfriend is willing to pay for your triplet redheaded sister's wedding, so be it.

 I am so upset with letting myself getting into this, but the fact is, like any other human, I lie. But now is not the time. I am upset because you don't know me, so to say that I'm not honest, is saddening. But, like I may or may not have said, I'm an adult. (believe it or not... ) so I should be more mature than this rather than comfronting such an absurd conversation when obviously- because my life IS NOT a story line- I can't just have a fairytail ending... Oh, god, dear god, I really did tell myself not to confront this, so report me if you will, but this- this nonsense of judging me, and thinking that you know me- is sickening.

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I did it out of kindness. I didn't have to pay for anything-- I just love my sister and I WANT to help her myself.

But you don't appear to know anything about planning a wedding. A daunting task even for a professional. You could still be involved with a planner.

" I am so upset with letting myself getting into this, but the fact is, like any other human, I lie. But now is not the time. I am upset because you dont know me, so to say that im not honest, is saddening. But, like I may or may not have said, I'm an adult. (believe it or not....) so I should be more mature than this rather than comfronting such an absurd conversation when obviously- because my life IS NOT a story line- I can't just have a fairytail ending.... Oh, god, dear god, I really did tell myself not to confront this, so report me if you will, but this- this nonsense of judging me, and thinking that you know me- is sickening."

So the dress and the million dollar wedding are both true? You are an adult, out of your teens?

And, yes, if your boyfriend is willing to subsidize a million dollar wedding he should be willing to throw in a few dollars for a planner.

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How old?

19 going on 20

I'd come up with some more ideas but I don't know if I am on the right track of what you want since I didn't get a reply to the pics I posted on your other post.

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Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

" I am so upset with letting myself getting into this, but the fact is, like any other human, I lie. But now is not the time. I am upset because you dont know me, so to say that im not honest, is saddening. But, like I may or may not have said, I'm an adult. (believe it or not....) so I should be more mature than this rather than comfronting such an absurd conversation when obviously- because my life IS NOT a story line- I can't just have a fairytail ending.... Oh, god, dear god, I really did tell myself not to confront this, so report me if you will, but this- this nonsense of judging me, and thinking that you know me- is sickening."

So the dress and the million dollar wedding are both true? You are an adult, out of your teens? My response to this, is, 'I thought I made this clear- yes...' thank you, for your wise words.

And, yes, if your bf is willing to subsidize a million dollar wedding he should be willing to throw in a few dollars for a planner.

I've been getting a lot of answers saying that I should really get a wedding planner. So maybe I'll get my boyfriend to hire one. I guess that if I'm not qualified, I'm just not qualified.

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Originally Posted by SmileyRedhead

I've been getting alot of answers saying that I should really get a wedding planner. So maybe I'll get my bf to hire one. I guess that if I'm not qualified, I'm just not qualified.

P.S There's a part that I had responded to asking me if I was really an adult, and if the wedding was real, and I said, 'My response to this is: I thought I was clear- yes... Thank you for your wise words.' but it had came out italic as if it were a part of the quote.

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19 going on 20

In other words, 19.

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In other words, 19.

Yes

Would look great as experience on a career starter

I don't think a person planning a million dollar wedding is going online for advice. They would have a wedding planner. I'm also suspicious when people quote a budget like that because nobody does that. You price things out that you would like and make decisions on each when you are able to have a large budget... you don't set out to spend an astronomical sum. Then let's add the sister paying, the quadruplets side story... silly. And apparently these are identical quads? Bull pucky!

On June 13 you were a triplet. Now you are a quadruplet.