Me and my future mother-in-law, was going over some wedding plans, this is my first wedding by the way. She bacially tried to shut down all my ideas and I voice to he it's me and her son wedding and we would like for things to be done our way even though I valued her input.

I saw a nice wedding dress but I don't want it in white, I want it in ice blue instead which she don't understand and now she thinks I am weird. Me and my fiancée have no problem with it and he likes the color. My mother is okay with it but still think white is best. How anyone ever been to a wedding where the bride didn't wear white? Just curious!

A white wedding dress is a holdover from the days when it was an embarrassment to be anything but 'pure' when wedded. Dresses other than white signified a 2nd marriage. These days the white dress is merely a matter of taste and another color carries no significance except for the couple's taste.

It's good that you continue to say you want MIL's input, but it is YOUR wedding. Wear the blue.

You can wear whatever you want, even jeans, but just beware of the fact that to older generations a non white wedding dress is for non virgins... so that is what they may be see your non white dress as.

Everyone already knows I not a virgin because I have a daughter and currently pregnant now. That's won't be a shocker. We want to do anything non-traditonal because we want our weeding to held a lot of memories and be tons of fun. When my fiancée stated we have a halloween wedding and get married in costumes, the expressions on her face was priceless. I really don't care too much for a wedding and would be fine.

Yeah pick a theme and go with it like an out door bar b que, tropical isalnd, autumn, hobby, era, romantic, etc...

Only virigns can wear white. It's a sign of purity. My cousin and her fiancé wore white to their wedding because they were both virgins.

Actually, wearing white does not signify virginity on your wedding day, it signifies that this is your first marriage. Wearing a veil signifies virginity. I did some research on this when I got married, that's what I found in etiquette books (didn't have internet back then);)

Having said that, it's your wedding, wear what you want.

I never knew wearing a veil means you're a virgin, I guess I won't be wearing one,lol. Thanks for the info.

I myself just wore a head piece, no veil. ;)

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Actually, wearing white does not signify virginity on your wedding day, it signifies that this is your first marriage. Wearing a veil signifies virginity. I did some research on this when I got married, that's what I found in etiquette books (didn't have internet back then);)

Having said that, it's your wedding, wear what you want.

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I didn't know that. I thought it was white, since white signifies purity. If that's the case, a lot of women don't need to wear veils.

I'm going to wear a veil and I'm not a virgin. I just like the way they look. And as far as an ice blue dress I think that's awesome! I saw one on Ebay that was this amazing ice blue and I thought it was absolutely gorgeous! The fact is, now a wedding is more about you and your personal style than what it used to be. You can wear black and white ( like I am going to do), red, blue... anything you want. It's all about YOU and what YOU want. Hopefully you only do this once. So make it what YOU want it to be! You can't please everybody. And besides, they aren't wearing the dress... You are!

You can wear anything you like its just white is traditional.ive seen stories in magazines where people have got married in theme costumes like doctor who,and vampires! Its crazy I know but its your special day so if you want to wear a different colour you go for it.

It is your wedding. Wear what you like. My girlfriend got married wearing the palest lilac and it was her first wedding - she just liked the look.

Just be polite and thank future MIL for her input and do what you like.

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You can wear anything you like its just white is traditional.ive seen stories in magazines where people have got married in theme costumes like doctor who,and vampires!! its crazy i know but its your special day so if you want to wear a diffrent colour you go for it.

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That's funny because my future husband, wants to have a halloween theme like wedding and want us to get married in custumes but no vampire stuff. He wants to be papa smurf and have his father be a bunny and this and that. My mother likes the idea but I don't. I know if anything we both want a disco or 80's reception.

I wish I could see a bride who WASN'T in white! I say go for it and where what you love!

If I could have found a dress in my budget that had color, I would have worn it in a hearbeat. :)

It's your wedding - you can wear anything you want. People think that the white wedding dress came to be because it symbolizes purity/virginity. That is not true. Up until the 1930s, early 40s women wore colored dresses to get married. The tradition of white dresses developed from women being unable to afford bright colored material (white was cheaper).
I am a wedding planner in NYC. I have seen it all. Hardly anyone wears all white now - at least not in NY. Many brides wear white dresses with bright colored accents. Some brides wear colored dresses.
Do what makes you happy!

Thank you for everyone responses. I know color is for expensive but I plan on making my own dress. I already have the design and I found some place that sells color and material I want. This weekend I going go see about it along with my mom.

The color white represents pure... getting married is a new beginning... If you wore red or black I thing in the long run there might be some problems...

It's a color that reflects your personal style, not a sign of things to come :)

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It's a color that reflects your personal style, not a sign of things to come :)

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I agree color only reflects your style not the outcome of the marriage. I never heard that one.

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Me and my future mother-in-law, was going over some wedding plans, this is my first wedding by the way. She bacially tried to shut down all my ideas and I voice to he it's me and her son wedding and we would like for things to be done our way even though I valued her input.

I saw a nice wedding dress but I don't want it in white, I want it in ice blue instead which she don't understand and now she thinks I am weird. Me and my fiancee have no problem with it and he likes the color. My mother is okay with it but still think white is best. How anyone ever been to a wedding where the bride didn't wear white? Just curious!

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Actually, yes. I went to a wedding where the bride wore a reddish color. People who like nontraditional weddings usually pic a color to wear instead of white. White is kind of bland and dry. Color gives a little excitement and pop. Hope this helps.

Absolutely. For my nieces wedding she chose a non traditional beige cream wedding gown which was very versatile and something she could wear over and over again. This is your day to remember. Someone else's expectations on what is and what is not expectations is simply their opinion and only that. I am quite sure that it will be understood that, once explained, that your choice allows you and your future husband many years of enjoyment being able to strut around in a gown made for many occasions will open a lot of eyes. Congratulations!

Yes I have seen other colors at weddings and they looked great. Now a days white is just tradional, it just depends on what tradion you want to follow. Some brides wear red for good luck, but you shouldn't worry about what everone thinks. Just be happy, say thank you for your help and wear what you want.
Oh, and way back in the day wearing white was only for the poor, royals and nobles married in many beautiful colors since they could afford it. It was Queen Elizabeth who helped make white stand for virginity. Just a tid bit I read about. :)
Good Luck and Many Blessings

Im currently working at a bridal salon. Though it is tradition to wear white as a sign of purity more and more brides are wearing whatever they want. I've ordered blue dresses, pink dressee, red dresses. It's really now up to the bride and her taste, most are throwing tradition out of the window.

Thank you for your comment. I've decided to get married in ice blue. I already have my design for the dress. I am almost finish making the bridesmaid dresses and I am going start mine dress after the New Year. It was just hard finding the right fabric and color. I brought so much that I decided to use the left over for decorations.

I don't know if you ever saw Tyler Perry's "Family Reunion" wedding at the end of the movie but that is the type of wedding I am planning, minus the violinists hanging from the ceiling.