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  • Jul 22, 2008, 06:17 PM
    cowandchicken
    What's the difference between raped and molested?
    My friend said this man touched her genitals and stuff without her wanting too when she was really young.Was she molested?
  • Jul 22, 2008, 06:23 PM
    Fr_Chuck
    Yes, anyone that touches a person without them wanting is molesting.
    Rape would require sex.

    ** I will add I am assuming you very young, and this is a good basic understanding, From a legal status, actual rape has specific meanings as written by each state law in the US. But if it is touching and not wanted ( or even wanted under a certain age) it is wrong and illegal.
  • Jul 22, 2008, 06:44 PM
    Andrew916
    Chuck is absolutely right. Molestation is everything up until penetration. Does she know who it is? Will she be willing to report him? She definitely should. I know a lot of people who feel that they are somehow resposible for what happened. If she does feel this way- make sure she knows that it's not her fault
  • Jul 22, 2008, 07:55 PM
    JBeaucaire
    I know your question is in regard to sexually oriented touching, but you should know that ANY time a person puts his hands on another person without permission, it is considered molestation. You can't touch people in any way without permission. Ever.
  • Jul 22, 2008, 08:15 PM
    bushg
    Genitals and stuff

    If he inserted in part of his body or any type of item into any part of her body then it is considered rape.
  • Jul 27, 2008, 10:51 PM
    KissMe10der
    Is your friend OK? I hope they are... its really hard emotionally to deal with being raped or molested. For me, its stuck... and I can be afriad of men or people I don't know.
  • Jul 29, 2008, 09:16 PM
    KissMe10der
    I know how that is, I freak out in dark places or where I'm not used to and a man approaches me.
  • Jul 29, 2008, 09:18 PM
    cowandchicken
    How do you deal with it?
  • Jul 29, 2008, 09:30 PM
    KissMe10der
    Well, I was raped 2 years ago. By a man off the internet, SO IM SUPER CAREFUL. WHo I meet.
    And, I am super sensitive to being held when Im upset.

    I was also assaulted sexually, and slapped.

    I feel confort in talking about my feelings. That really helps me, I like to keep others informed and support others. Keep busy.. and such.

    BUT, I freak out when approached by someone I don't know. I carry pepperspray.. that gives me comfort.
    All in all, I won't let it happen again. I will fight to the end. It really has me messed up in some regards.. I stopped going to school for awhile.
  • Jul 30, 2008, 11:33 PM
    cowandchicken
    My friend would like to know where you got the pepper spray.
  • Jul 30, 2008, 11:40 PM
    KissMe10der
    My father bought it for me.. he actually bought me two things of it.

    May I ask how old she is? Each state has different laws on how strong it can be... so look it up for your state.

    He bought it at a store sort of like walmart.

    I have these two..

    http://www.spyassociates.com/images/358_00a.jpg (Pink one)

    And

    http://static.zoovy.com/img/888knive...fire_thumb.jpg

    You have to be 18 or older to buy it.
  • Sep 13, 2008, 12:06 PM
    Mz818
    Molestion is when someone touches you in an inapproiate spot and you don't want them to. Rape is actually when someone has SEX with you without your approval!

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