[babybonbon95]

I'm seventeen years old. I have been dating my boyfriend for about three years. My parents are constantly moving because of my step dads job. So we struggle to see each other. I would like to move back to my home town where I would like to start college at. I just turned seventeen. Is there any possible way that I can move in with my boyfriend without my parents concent? He will be nineteen soon. I could use all the help I can get.

[ScottGem]

Nope. Until you are 18 you are under your parent's control. You could apply for emancipation but you would have to prove you can live entirely on your own. If your relationship has survived 3 years it will survive one more.

[Wondergirl]

How are you struggling to see each other? Back in my day, all we had was snail mail and maybe a weekly phone call (if we could afford it). Today you have Skype, pre-paid cell phones, YouTube, IM-ing, and email (and maybe some other stuff I can't think of).

Tough it out. Like Scott says, it's only one more year.

[babybonbon95]

Well my parents are planning to move me three more hours away. And it just won't work out if I don't leave. If I go to court, can I tell them I have support if I do move out, or will they deny it? Thanks for your help!

[Wondergirl]

Well my parents are planning to move me three more hours away. And it just wont work out if I don't leave. If I go to court, can I tell them I have support if I do move out, or will they deny it? Thanks for your help!

What "won't work out if I don't leave"? (That makes absolutely no sense.)

[babybonbon95]

I mean it won't work out if I leave.

[Wondergirl]

I mean it won't work out if I leave.

WHAT won't work out if you leave for WHERE?

[babybonbon95]

Our relationship. If i move three hours away.

[Wondergirl]

OUR RELATIONSHIP. If I move THREE HOURS AWAY.

1. Does your boyfriend live alone or with his parents?
2. What will happen if he dumps you after you move in?
3. Do you really believe you have to be in the same place with him for him to continue to love you?

[babybonbon95]

He has his own place. He is going too college in my home town, the college I'm planning on going to.
And not seeing each other for a year would be very difficult.
My dad is very uptight and won't even let a boy come over to the house. So there is no possible way of seeing him once I move away.

[Wondergirl]

He has his own place. He is going too college in my home town, the college I'm planning on going to.
And not seeing each other for a year would be very difficult.
My dad is very uptight and won't even let a boy come over to the house. So there is no possible way of seeing him once I move away.

Yes, it's difficult not to see each other for a year, but it's been done many times by many couples. My boyfriend went away to college (200 miles away) and we saw each other at Christmas and in the summer. Then I went away to college (650 miles away) and saw him at Christmas and Easter, but no summers. We went together for six years during all of that.

Who will be paying for your college experience?

What if he finds another girl to like?

How do you see him now? Do you two sneak around and meet?

[babybonbon95]

My dads job gets me a free ride to college. I don't want to move because I don't want him to find someone else. If I'm around he won't. But if I'm not, he will begin too feel lonely and crave the attention. We do sneak around, sadly. I say I'm staying with a friend in town, and my best friend lives near him and we are dating cousins so we just go over there and hang out as a group. My mom knows what is going on, and she knows how crazy we are about each other. But she will not stand up to my dad and tell him what needs to be done. So we are secretly seeing each other until I'm old enough. But at the moment he is only thirty minutes away. So it's not as difficult to tell my dad I'm staying in town. But three hours away would just be impossible.

[Wondergirl]

My dads job gets me a free ride to college. I don't want to move because I don't want him to find someone else. If I'm around he won't. But if I'm not, he will begin too feel lonely and crave the attention.

Your being with him and watching his every move doesn't guarantee that he will always love you. In fact, I'd rather give my boyfriend space so that I know I can trust him.

You're already living a lie. Isn't that a bit uncomfortable? Your dad can stop the free ride, you know.

[babybonbon95]

Well thanks for your help, but you and your boyfriend are different. And no it isn't uncomfortable. We aren't living a lie. Just cause your life is so perfect and whatnot, doesn't mean everyone's is. I'm not with him all the time. And I can trust him, but If I live THREE HOURS AWAY, it's tooo hard.

[Wondergirl]

Well thanks for your help, but you and your bf are different.

That was 45 years ago, back when people had dinosaurs as pets.

Yes, you are lying to your father. What will he do when he finds out? I still say tough it out for one more year, and then your life will be perfect.

[ScottGem]

You are missing several points here. The first point is that there is nothing you can do about it. Before you can apply for emancipation you have to prove you can live on your own. Which means a job and a place to live (not with your bf). The likelihood of your proving to a court that you should be emancipated before you turn 18 is extremely slim. So you are going to have to move with your parents unless they give you permission. Also what do you think happens to the free ride in college if you get emancipated?

Second point, You clearly don't trust your boyfriend completely. Nor are you sure enough of your love. So, don't you think it would be better to find that out now?

Third point, I suspect a large part of your relationship is based on having to sneak around. The romance of forbidden fruit etc.

WG made an excellent point, with all the avenues of communication available it shouldn't be that great a hardship. Especially with the promise of being in the same college together in a year.